Something I've been praying UPDATE
hard about.
I filed for divorce yesterday.
Doug
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL
Audrey left last night and took Deanna with her. I haven't seen either of them today.
This is the first Christmas I can ever recall - except for when I was in the Army - spending alone. It's a strange and depressing feeling. I guess I'd better get used to it.
Your strength and support is helping me immeasurably.
God Bless you all,
Doug
I filed for divorce yesterday.
Doug
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL
Audrey left last night and took Deanna with her. I haven't seen either of them today.
This is the first Christmas I can ever recall - except for when I was in the Army - spending alone. It's a strange and depressing feeling. I guess I'd better get used to it.
Your strength and support is helping me immeasurably.
God Bless you all,
Doug
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I wanted to be here to help my Daughters get through school. She begged me to stay and I love her.
When she would get angry with me she would punch me on the back of the head or shove me violently in the chest where my pacemaker/defibrillator is located.
She would get me to the point that I thought I might have another heart attack, so I would go to the hospital ER and sit outside, waiting for my heart to slow down - or not.
I don't, and never have, sworn at her or called her names. I am a pretty mellow guy, for maybe the last 30 - 35 years.
In front of my Children, she would scream at me that I was a MF(full length word) and a c**ks**ker - IN FRONT OF MY KIDS.
Starting to get whiney...
Doug0 -
No Doug, you arent...
Thanks for answering the questions....0 -
quote:Originally posted by Doug Wilson
I wanted to be here to help my Daughters get through school. She begged me to stay and I love her.
When she would get angry with me she would punch me on the back of the head or shove me violently in the chest where my pacemaker/defibrillator is located.
She would get me to the point that I thought I might have another heart attack, so I would go to the hospital ER and sit outside, waiting for my heart to slow down - or not.
I don't, and never have, sworn at her or called her names. I am a pretty mellow guy, for maybe the last 30 - 35 years.
In front of my Children, she would scream at me that I was a MF(full length word) and a c**ks**ker - IN FRONT OF MY KIDS.
Starting to get whiney...
Doug
Doug,
If she is/was doing that, she does NOT love you. She is trying to kill you. File charges anytime it happens. We may be men, but under the law we are supposed to be genderless.
I was cussed, spit on, and stabbed twice. I never responded violently either. I never called the law. Big mistake on the latter. It cost me big in court. The last time violence reared its head, I did call the law. She slammed a car door on my head because I wouldn't switch visitation weekends.
I feel for you Doug. I am still praying for you.0 -
Sorry for your lost.
Whatever happens, I hope it works out for the best.
Keep thinking. Keep praying.
Then again maybe think less, pray more.
We enjoy your company here Mr. Doug Wilson.0 -
Sorry for unloading on y'all like this.
You GBers are a great help.
Doug0 -
file a restraining order on her and nail the doors shut[?]
send her on a vacation to south america, then cancel her bank account[?]
buy 50 chickens and turn them loose in the house when you leave[;)]
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..............cheer up my computer friend.......................0 -
Doug...
Be careful of what is said on here....we are all here for you, and for your kids as well...0 -
quote:Originally posted by Doug Wilson
Sorry for unloading on y'all like this.
You GBers are a great help.
Doug
What you need to do is have a giveaway. Do some real unloading. Give a gunaway. It'llmake you feel better.
My wife's uncle was married. She hired a cop to kill him years after the divorce. At the trial she said "I don't know what I'm goin to jail fer. He ain't dead." She's 95 pound, nuts, and in a wheelchair.0 -
Doug, it sounds as if you may need to take a vacation for a while. Have you considered spending some time with Son #1 or Son #2? If not, maybe you should. Unless you don't want involve them.
You are in my prayers.
Besides, you need to stick around for at least 6 months because I am coming out your way in June and I would sure like for you to show me around the museum.0 -
sad. regadless of fault, but honest, if it was TRUE deep pure love, it would all self heal.
sounds like something was wrong with the original receipe. sounds like it cooked wrong and got ruined.
sometimes cooks never can tell theres something wrong until the smoke is coming out of the oven.
very sorry.
good luck with your next receipe.
[:(]
if you need a new cook book, let me know. ill be glad to help.[^]0 -
quote:Originally posted by bobski
sad. regadless of fault, but honest, if it was TRUE deep pure love, it would all self heal.
sounds like something was wrong with the original receipe. sounds like it cooked wrong and got ruined.
sometimes cooks never can tell theres something wrong until the smoke is coming out of the oven.
very sorry.
good luck with your next receipe.
[:(]
if you need a new cook book, let me know. ill be glad to help.[^]
I am working on this post.
Doug0 -
My now-ex-wife's mom died abruptly, oh, I think it was eight years ago this past Mother's Day (ugly timing). My wife didn't take it well, to understate the situation. Refused counselling and used me as a verbal, mental, and emotional punching bag, me being handy when the pain got too much for her to bear. Trying to keep a sufficient degree of love and empathy intact, for the day she actually reached out for help, so as to be able to provide that help, I gave her space. She sort-of healed, we sort-of healed, but we'd come to a place where the space I'd given her was still between us -- and neither one of us had a clue how to come back together. We were still trying when an old high school boyfriend entered the picture (God BLESS the internet for making it possible for a guy in Oklahoma to locate a girl in Indiana whom he'd dated for several months, some twenty-five years earlier, in Arizona!). On the night of her birthday, last year, I agreed to make other living arrangements, and our divorce was final back in February.
What can I say but been there, done that? Ours was a civilized and by-and-large friendly parting of ways -- and still painful, awkward, embarressing at times, and financially very difficult. Need to make noises that might sound like you're whining, to someone who knows damned well you aren't? E-mail. My phone number is yours for the asking, and my time yours for the taking if time to talk is what you need.
God bless.0 -
What great people each of you are.
Thank you.
Doug0 -
Doug,
Tough decision, not taken lightly I am sure.
Hang tough, stay focused. If there is any doubt that she may "nut-up" get a lawyer and don't let anger take ahold.
Time will heal the pain and remember, all things tend to happen for a reason, which becomes evident given time.
Been there, done that.
Good luck and hang in.
Jeff0 -
Well...I made it through the night.
I figure that for every day I stay alive, the likelihood of her wasting me declines.
Right ??
Doug0 -
I'm sorry to hear that it has come to this point. Prayers said for wisdom and guidance in this matter! 0 -
Very sad news any time, but double-bad to hear around Christmas...
I trust your heartwill guide you in your endeavors to come.Know that you're in our prayers, and never hesitate to email me, or any other friends if you feel the need to talk.I have only been married for 3-1/2 years, and i know i'd be devistated if my wife left me.
Keep ypur chin up buddy, and if you're gonna go thru with it, go FULL-BORE!!
Bestwishes for your future Doug..
Jeff0 -
Audrey went to my attorney's office and picked up the paper work this morning - I had emailed her yesterday asking if she wanted to do that or be served at work. This was after the following occurred:
I went to Staples yesterday and bought an itty-bitty Sony digital voice recorder that holds 150 hours of talk (ICD8600) for $39.98, so I would be able to document everything she said to me. I called her at work yesterday and told her I would be recording all our conversations from then on, then I told her I had filed for divorce.............dial tone.
Since she got home last night - around 2AM - she has not said a word to me - darn.
I called the Clerk of the Court just now, and was told that she had not yet filed a Temporary Restraining Order, as she did the last time I filed for divorce. Maybe she learned something when that TRO was dismissed.
Useful information for y'all - DON'T let people file Temporary Restraining Orders against you. It complicates your life immensely. Last time my CHL was revoked at once, and it took me two months to get it back after the Order was rescinded. Also, if you think you might possibly be getting into this situation - have a bag in your rig with your most valuable firearms in it, as well as a weeks worth of underwear and clothes, and all your personal jewelry. As that event approaches, have as much cash with you as you can, because she can have all your bank accounts and credit cards frozen - just on her word - no court action required.
I hope this information helps a fellow GBer or two.
Onward and upward.
"NEVER GIVE UP - NEVER SURRENDER"
dOUG0 -
she can have all your bank accounts and credit cards frozen - just on her word - no court action required.
WOW! Great little "tid-bit" there...
Thanks!0 -
Hi Doug!
Sorry, I just saw your post about the divorce, I was not aware of any issues.
I am here for you if you need to get together with someone to chat. Maybe 30-45 min from Sheridan since I am in the Portland area. I went through the same situation in 1998 when a much younger wife decided to move on. Tough, nasty adjustment but I survived and so will you.
Talk to friends often, take a deep breath, and slowly pick yourself up and move on.
Give me a call at any hour if you need to chat.
Lee/sig2320 -
I'm blown away.
A big BONK to my head!
... anything I can do - let me know.
Have to let this sink in.
A20 -
Doug,......I really don't think she would try to kill you in an "outright" manner, but I would be prepared to leave if you must.
If she is that hateful as you have described, and of course all of your "stuff" is combined,.......maybe even JTWROS on any investments,
she may try to cause you so much anxiety as to cause a heart attack, or stroke.
Since you do have some health issues, you must not get worked up, or into any knock down arguements.
If she attempts to provoke you into anything like that, simply walk away, and leave if you must.
Don't play into something like that.
We would miss you here![;)]
Hang in there buddy.0 -
Mark -
That's part of the reason I bought the recorder - knowing that it's running, I'll deal with her more calmly - and the same for her.
In 1995, when I had my bypass and the prognosis for living was grim, we put all our assets in her name, so I don't have to worry about that. I think we have a couple of cars with shared registration, but that's about it.
I'm in the midst of revising my will, and I changed life insurance beneficiaries yesterday.
You know, your lives really are seriously linked when your married.
Doug0 -
Get out your Simon and Garfunkel and play over and over, 50 ways to leave your lover. Just get out the back Jack, just make a new plan Stan, just hop on the bus Gus, just drop off the key Lee and get yourself free.[^] 0 -
It's an awful situation at every level, Doug. Protect yourself, keep your dignity and preserve your integrity. Let a lawyer fight for the rest; without one you'll keep very little, and even though it seems the easier way now, you'll live to regret it.
Clouder..0 -
I will.
Doug0 -
Blessings sent Doug, these situations suck royally. Go get you a fishing pole and a few worms, find a nice quiet shady spot and relax under a tree somewhere. 0 -
Well I'm just a noob still wet behind the ears and I don't have any experience with that kinda situation as yours, but I wish you the best of luck in handling it. Keep your kids close, you apparently have great ones. 0 -
quote:Originally posted by Doug Wilson
hard about.
I filed for divorce yesterday.
Doug
Condolences
When it needs to be done do it
quick and never look back.
If you change your mind think
twice befor making that move
as it just intensifys the hurt.
Best luck
mijelo0 -
Doug, I'm very sorry this has proceeded to the separation of a family, especially at Christmas time! You and your family remain in my prayers! 0
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