Daughter-in-law troubles, again! Update
Update...
She's on her way here and will meet me at the hospital so Sherry can have her ankle checked. Has the baby with her and said they were at the mall next to Six Flags. I don't give a rats behind, she wasn't there!
I called the folks at Six Flags to see if I could get some refund on their tickets since they didn't get to stay long, and they are sending me 4 anytime tickets in the mail. I will take them back as soon as Sherry can walk again.
Be back in an hour or so, hope Sherry's ankle isn't broken. She still can't put weight on it even after all of the time with the ice pack. Sat a little pray that she's okay.
My Daughter-in-law isn't honest with me
The kids are about to start school again. They wanted one more trip to Six Flags before the summer ended, so I told my daughter-in-law if she could take them I would buy the tickets and give them some pocket money.
She first told me she would drop them off and pick them back up when they were ready to come home.
No go! I told her I wasn't going to have the four of them running all over Six Flags without an adult to supervise them. She balked, then said, "Okay, I'll stay with them," I could tell she didn't like it, but she knew it wasn't going to happen otherwise.
I bought 5 tickets, one for each grandkid, and one for her. I gave each of the kid's $50 cash to spend as they wish. They left this morning and headed to Six Flags for a day of fun in the sun.
At 12:30, I get a call from Sherry on her firefly phone (kid's cell phone). She has hurt herself and is crying. She is with her youngest brother, but doesn't know where the other two are. She is in pain.
I asked her where her mother is, and she says, "I don't know, she dropped us off this morning and left. She won't be back until 8 tonight. I called her cell phone but she didn't answer."
I told her to go up to one of the Six Flags workers, tell them she's hurt and her grandfather is one his way, but won't be there for 30 to 45 minutes. I told her to tell them to take her somewhere safe and cool, and I would check in at the front gate when I arrived.
I got there and they took me to a nurse's station inside the park. She and her youngest brother were there, but the other two were MIA.
I used her cell phone and called the oldest, and he was with the middle boy, and they had been looking for the other two. I told him where we were and told him to come on because I need to take Sherry home. They were there in a few minutes, and we left.
I tried twice more to call my daughter-in-law, still no answer. The oldest thought she was going shopping, so she's probably inside a mall and can't get reception, but who knows. I left a message that basically said she could pick the kids up at my house.
I'm so mad I could spit! The two older kids feel cheated out of a day at Six Flags, and if Sherry doesn't start walking on her ankle, I'm going to take her to the hospital this evening for x-rays.
I'm betting a dollar to a donut that she sends my son to pick the kids up this evening. I'll bet she won't face me face to face knowing I've caught her in a lie, again. It's time for this spoiled little child to grow up, be an adult, and live up to her promises.
Guess she'll get mad and not let the grandkids come over this weekend. She likes to punish everyone else for her failings.
She's on her way here and will meet me at the hospital so Sherry can have her ankle checked. Has the baby with her and said they were at the mall next to Six Flags. I don't give a rats behind, she wasn't there!
I called the folks at Six Flags to see if I could get some refund on their tickets since they didn't get to stay long, and they are sending me 4 anytime tickets in the mail. I will take them back as soon as Sherry can walk again.
Be back in an hour or so, hope Sherry's ankle isn't broken. She still can't put weight on it even after all of the time with the ice pack. Sat a little pray that she's okay.
My Daughter-in-law isn't honest with me
The kids are about to start school again. They wanted one more trip to Six Flags before the summer ended, so I told my daughter-in-law if she could take them I would buy the tickets and give them some pocket money.
She first told me she would drop them off and pick them back up when they were ready to come home.
No go! I told her I wasn't going to have the four of them running all over Six Flags without an adult to supervise them. She balked, then said, "Okay, I'll stay with them," I could tell she didn't like it, but she knew it wasn't going to happen otherwise.
I bought 5 tickets, one for each grandkid, and one for her. I gave each of the kid's $50 cash to spend as they wish. They left this morning and headed to Six Flags for a day of fun in the sun.
At 12:30, I get a call from Sherry on her firefly phone (kid's cell phone). She has hurt herself and is crying. She is with her youngest brother, but doesn't know where the other two are. She is in pain.
I asked her where her mother is, and she says, "I don't know, she dropped us off this morning and left. She won't be back until 8 tonight. I called her cell phone but she didn't answer."
I told her to go up to one of the Six Flags workers, tell them she's hurt and her grandfather is one his way, but won't be there for 30 to 45 minutes. I told her to tell them to take her somewhere safe and cool, and I would check in at the front gate when I arrived.
I got there and they took me to a nurse's station inside the park. She and her youngest brother were there, but the other two were MIA.
I used her cell phone and called the oldest, and he was with the middle boy, and they had been looking for the other two. I told him where we were and told him to come on because I need to take Sherry home. They were there in a few minutes, and we left.
I tried twice more to call my daughter-in-law, still no answer. The oldest thought she was going shopping, so she's probably inside a mall and can't get reception, but who knows. I left a message that basically said she could pick the kids up at my house.
I'm so mad I could spit! The two older kids feel cheated out of a day at Six Flags, and if Sherry doesn't start walking on her ankle, I'm going to take her to the hospital this evening for x-rays.
I'm betting a dollar to a donut that she sends my son to pick the kids up this evening. I'll bet she won't face me face to face knowing I've caught her in a lie, again. It's time for this spoiled little child to grow up, be an adult, and live up to her promises.
Guess she'll get mad and not let the grandkids come over this weekend. She likes to punish everyone else for her failings.
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what a selfish brat.
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No offense, but how many times does it take for you?
She knows she has you tied around her finger, because she can keep the grandkids away from you if she wants.
Sorry situation![:(]0 -
Sounds fishy. Maybe she wasn't shopping. Might have been visiting a "special friend". 0 -
quote:Originally posted by Marc1301
No offense, but how many times does it take for you?
She knows she has you tied around her finger, because she can keep the grandkids away from you if she wants.
Sorry situation![:(]
She's a good person, and a good mother in most ways. Her problem is she's an only child raised by old hippies who didn't believe in rules or discipline. Then, worst of all, she's lazy and self centered. She'll do what ever it takes to get her way and do what she wants.0 -
Want her to "disappear?"[;)] 0 -
Heffley, I know you've had a world of troubles in the year I've been on this site . And I feel for you and Sandy, that you don't need more headaches.
You can flame me for what I'm about say, but when is your boys other nut going to drop and he put his foot down on her antics?0 -
quote:Originally posted by dpmule
Heffley, I know you've had a world of troubles in the year I've been on this site . And I feel for you and Sandy, that you don't need more headaches.
You can flame me for what I'm about say, but when is your boys other nut going to drop and he put his foot down on her antics?
He wants to avoid confrontation, and she's learned all she has to do to back him off is get mad and pout. She's a bigger baby than her children, and I'm concerned on what he's teaching his kids when it comes to marriage.
She needs to grow up, and he needs to grow a set!0 -
Not sure I would agree with you about what a good "mom" she is,........after dropping off 4 kids at a theme park, and leaving them alone, after the person that paid for the trip told her not to.
If she is that way, after having 4 kids, I would not be holding my breath, expecting her to change.
The sad part for you, is like I said,........she knows she can pull your chain.
You spout off, and then she knows in a couple of days, or weeks, you will be the "patsy" again, because you want to see your grandchildren.
Once again,.......no offense meant to you![;)]0 -
quote:Originally posted by Marc1301
Not sure I would agree with you about what a good "mom" she is
Did you miss the "in most ways" statement after that comment?
She had four children, and Sherry is adopted. The baby is too young to do these outings.0 -
Likely too late to put his foot down. After 4 kids & ??? yrs, she is not likely to change. I expect that she was shopping [;)][;)]. Been there, done that, heard that & similar stories. But as a grandparent, the best you can do is try to help the kids. Try to see that they do not grow up with her "teachings." Have a step-daughter-in-law that may be her twin. 0 -
quote:Originally posted by dheffley
quote:Originally posted by Marc1301
Not sure I would agree with you about what a good "mom" she is
Did you miss the "in most ways" statement after that comment?
She had four children, and Sherry is adopted. The baby is too young to do these outings.
She's self centered, undisciplined, lazy, and left her four kids at an amusement park for hours without any supervision. Short of beating them, I'm not sure that there's a whole lot she could do to be a worse mother.0 -
Nope didn't miss that part,........but in this day and age, I certainly would not drop off 4 kids at a theme park by themselves, with all of the freaks that are out there.
I, and I only, consider that a gross lack of concern, for a mother,......your request that she be there, was secondary!0 -
I have never met her, but from your stories, I don't like her very much. I can introduce you to an excellent family law attorney. 0 -
Throw this new rule out on her.. Only two grandchildren at a time from now on. Grandpa's rules.. take it or leave it. IF I hear a loud noise in the west tonight I know it was the screen door slamming on the way out.. 0 -
quote:Originally posted by Marc1301
I, and I only, consider that a gross falling lack of concern for a mother
Nope not just you, I agree with you, that's why I put the stipulation that she be there in the agreement. This is one of the areas where she is not a good mother.0 -
my divorced daughter does similiar stuff, hasn't progressed to dropping the GK's and leaving them at places like that, Yet!.
She's on a pout with me today as I informed her that her impromptu babaysitter, ME ( and I don't mind most the time as I can usually fit them in what I'm doing) was headed to Kuwait on 6 Sept, she said what'll I do for someone to watch them after school, I said reckon you'll have to hire someone, oh she is pi$$ed, said she might even have to take second job to do it, I said OK sounds resonable and responsible, that stirred her up even more.
Oh yes and then I get
"Well you just don't understand", ever get that?0 -
quote:Originally posted by nunn
I can introduce you to an excellent family law attorney.
That's for my son to do, not me.0 -
quote:Originally posted by select-fire
Throw this new rule out on her.. Only two grandchildren at a time from now on. Grandpa's rules.. take it or leave it. IF I hear a loud noise in the west tonight I know it was the screen door slamming on the way out..
She hates me and thinks I'm controling because I put conditions she doesn't like on some of the things I do. It's all about her.0 -
quote:Originally posted by dpmule
my divorced daughter does similiar stuff
If this one was my daughter, I would spank her bottom even at 38!0 -
I thought when I heard those littl kids in the choir going
memememememememememe, they were warming up to sing little did I know they were practicing for adulthood0 -
How old are these kids Danny. If they are under the age of 13 and Six Flaggs had called the police or other authorities about this situation, you daughter in law would have found herself in court for child neglect.
Good thing for her you were there to cover her butt.0 -
quote:memememememememememe
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quote:Originally posted by dheffley
quote:Originally posted by select-fire
Throw this new rule out on her.. Only two grandchildren at a time from now on. Grandpa's rules.. take it or leave it. IF I hear a loud noise in the west tonight I know it was the screen door slamming on the way out..
She hates me and thinks I'm controling because I put conditions she doesn't like on some of the things I do. It's all about her.
Blow her mind and tell her she is on " Probation " with you until further notice. Say No more. Keep her curious when things will get better. It will drive her nuts. If she ask a favor bring up the " Probation".. not over yet..0 -
And while I am on a small rant, you should tell her that Pedophiles hang out at places like Six Flaggs just hoping to run across some young unattended children.
A friend's daughter was molested at the Six Flaggs near Chicago about 10 years ago and she was there with a church youth group and several parents.
The guy was never caught, the girl was a mess and it took a few years in therapy to get her back on the right track....0 -
quote:Originally posted by William81
And while I am on a small rant, you should tell her that Pedophiles hang out at places like Six Flaggs just hoping to run across some young unattended children.
A friend's daughter was molested at the Six Flaggs near Chicago about 10 years ago and she was there with a church youth group and several parents.
The guy was never caught, the girl was a mess and it took a few years in therapy to get her back on the right track....
+1,........my point exactly!0 -
Tell her you reported this to the police and they will be watching her, it's better to do it now before something happens to the kids.Tell your son to get his nuts out of her purse and be a man. 0 -
thats child abandonment.she would be a wreck if somethig worse had happened. kidnapers love loose kids at big parks.this toatly sucks for every one involved. wish i could fix it dheffly. 0 -
Dheffley,........just so you don't feel alone!
My mom has a friend that I have known since I was around 15, she is 68 now, and has 2 sons.
Both are married, but the "good" son, has not had any children yet, and may not.
The older son, married an Iranian "Princess",.......they proceeded to have 2 children. That woman has done everything to alienate the son from his mother. They live in Atlanta, and the mother lives in Boca Raton, Florida.
She is "allowed" to visit up there once a year, where she gets to sleep in the basement, with crickets.
The son has been to Florida 2 times this year, and has not even stopped to see his mother.
She is only allowed to call him on his cell phone, so the wife doesn't get mad.
She just went through heart surgery, followed by deep melanoma removal,...........did the older son show up,.....NO!
The older sons wife, also hates his brother. Why, I have no idea.
Your son is not the only one with no "stones"!0 -
i think this could be on the side of child endangerment 0 -
Maybe I missed something ! Or, maybe I am just old fashioned ! Or maybe both ! But, who has custody of these kids? How old are the parents? If the parents have custody, you may be able to save yourself alot of grief by letting them raise thier children.
I don't have all the details, so if I sound cold and somewhat obtuse, please don't be offended. Its just that sometimes it is better to cut the apron strings I think.0
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