Dang!----- I'm tired of striking out!
on women that is[V]
As many of you know i grew up in a VERY small farming/ranching community and up there i new every farmers daughter and it didn't matter wether i was driving the stang or the old beater farm truck, I could ALWAYS get a date. Sometimes it seemed like the dirtier i got from working on the ranch, The easier it was to get a date[8D]
Now i live in a considerably bigger city and no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get a date. It just seems like the girls in this town just aren't interested in a good ole ranchen boy[:(]
I got close once though, Ran into a gal in the mall and we kindof hit it off, She liked my stang and so i told her about my other projects, She said she wanted to see them so i took her to my house to show them to her. When she saw them she accused me of being another one of those jerks that would end up spending more time with my cars than i would with her[:0] That was the last we spoke[V]
Dang, I had been told that city girls where hard to get, But i didn't expect anything like this[:0]
Oh well, I guess it will be another night with you guys and my guns/cars.
P.s. Any GB member with daughter or grand daughters betwean the the ages of 18-21
I am currently available[:)]
As many of you know i grew up in a VERY small farming/ranching community and up there i new every farmers daughter and it didn't matter wether i was driving the stang or the old beater farm truck, I could ALWAYS get a date. Sometimes it seemed like the dirtier i got from working on the ranch, The easier it was to get a date[8D]
Now i live in a considerably bigger city and no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get a date. It just seems like the girls in this town just aren't interested in a good ole ranchen boy[:(]
I got close once though, Ran into a gal in the mall and we kindof hit it off, She liked my stang and so i told her about my other projects, She said she wanted to see them so i took her to my house to show them to her. When she saw them she accused me of being another one of those jerks that would end up spending more time with my cars than i would with her[:0] That was the last we spoke[V]
Dang, I had been told that city girls where hard to get, But i didn't expect anything like this[:0]
Oh well, I guess it will be another night with you guys and my guns/cars.
P.s. Any GB member with daughter or grand daughters betwean the the ages of 18-21
I am currently available[:)]
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Stop looking,do some soul searching and figure out what you REALY want in a mate. do the things you love to do, try some new things that interest you and above all, be yourself. Chances are if you do that she has been there all along. Someone gave me that advise 10 years ago and it held true. Married 8 years now to the best friend and companion I have ever had. 0 -
stevenray: Have you ever thought about doing some acting?
I enjoyed acting when I was a young buck. I got in about ten plays, just at the college, or community theatre. I even got the lead in a couple of plays, I don't know if I was any good but it was a lot of fun!
A side benefit, it is a great way to meet girls! There are always twice as many girls in these amateur theatre shows as guys, if not on stage, then working in the costume dept or as stage hands.
Theatre girls like to party, without exception every one I dated was very uninhibited.
You sound like a shy country boy, these theatre girls would love that.
If you are too shy to act, just go to the local community theatre, and tell them you want to be a stage hand. You probably have some carpentry skills, having grown up on a ranch, they will sign you right up.
See, when a play is being done, a set has to be built. This may involve building a 10 foot high framed wall, maybe 30 feet long, which is covered with canvas, and then painted. Might be a set of stairs needs to be framed up. These girls don't know how to run a skilsaw, and they admire a man who does.
So, you have been down there working on the set one night, with the guy in charge of sets, and about 6 girls.
One of the girls will say to you, "Say, Stevenray, a bunch of us are going to such-and-such restaurant after rehearsal, and have a drink. Why don't you come down there?"
Or, they will say, "We are having a little party over at Julie's house after the show tonight, you are invited."
Get into an amateur theatre show, and the girls will ask YOU out.0 -
first thing, get a wedding band,wear it when going out. Borrow your sisters three year old son and walk in the park with a dog,you cant miss unless you look like the hunchback of notre dame. 0 -
don't try to show off your stuff or "what you have" to impress a girl. don't try to impress her in the first place, you're on the wrong track.
me and my friends were constantly searching for chicks to pick up. I used to think that it would help to have a nice car, cool clothes, etc. so I did the best I could, but one of my friends I was with pointed out one time, we don't care what the chicks got, do we? they don't either, they'll go out with a dude even if he has a broken down beater and no money, it just matters if he turns them on. I looked around, he was right. it's you that makes the difference.
and, one thing that matters the most to them, is your schlong. let's face it. that's what they're after, don't let them fool you. I've been cork-blocked many many times, so have all my friends, and we all know what does it. the chicks go straight to the best guy in the bunch and pass everybody else right by without even looking. I think there's something wrong with their little beaver brains, because almost all of them think they deserve more than what they should actually be able to get. that's why they act the way they do.
example: I was at a party and this chick was standing there, she asked me if she could feel my butt. I said sure. so we stood there drinking beers with her groping my butt for a while, then this other dude went by on the way out the door, she went zzziiipp right over to him and they were going to leave together, she went by me and said "sorry, he's better looking!" and they left.
and, city chicks have it in their heads that there are plenty of other dudes out there to snag. country chicks think like that too sort of, but not nearly as much, so a) they're easier to please, and b) they're much more content to stick with a dude that's good enough once they find him.
so, yep, I'd say you'd have much better luck with chicks back where you came from, in the short term and long term.0 -
Well you could always date your sister or a sheep!quote:Originally posted by stevenrayspeck
on women that is[V]
As many of you know i grew up in a VERY small farming/ranching community and up there i new every farmers daughter and it didn't matter wether i was driving the stang or the old beater farm truck, I could ALWAYS get a date. Sometimes it seemed like the dirtier i got from working on the ranch, The easier it was to get a date[8D]
Now i live in a considerably bigger city and no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get a date. It just seems like the girls in this town just aren't interested in a good ole ranchen boy[:(]
I got close once though, Ran into a gal in the mall and we kindof hit it off, She liked my stang and so i told her about my other projects, She said she wanted to see them so i took her to my house to show them to her. When she saw them she accused me of being another one of those jerks that would end up spending more time with my cars than i would with her[:0] That was the last we spoke[V]
Dang, I had been told that city girls where hard to get, But i didn't expect anything like this[:0]
Oh well, I guess it will be another night with you guys and my guns/cars.
P.s. Any GB member with daughter or grand daughters betwean the the ages of 18-21
I am currently available[:)]0 -
I think if I were you, I'd go back home! 0 -
You may be being too much of a gentleman for today "modern" woman.
Here's what used to work for me when I was between marriages.
1st: Find a bar that you like that has some female clientel as well.
Then become a fairly regular patron. Don't be a drunk, but stop in and stay long enough that you begin to recognise and make friends with the "regulars".
Pick out which women you see that you might be interested in and find out about their current availibility.
Then make friends w/the available ones. Shoot some pool, throw some darts, BS and dance etc. All on a just friendly basis.
Then after awhile when the time seems right, during a pool game or some interaction just comment..
"Damn you look GOOD. When are we gonna hook-up?" in a semi joking kind of way.
8 out of 10, they laugh it off. 2 will take you up on it that nite.
And about 3 will mull it over and throw it at you in the near future. Women like directness in conjuncion w/a compliment in a non threatening or vulgar way.0 -
Never spend time asking people on the internet or anywhere else how to meet chicks. As soon as you start worrying about it it's all over. Girls spot that neediness, however slight, from miles away. Life is your party, throw a good party and people will want to join in.
PS Never has anyone gotten laid at the end of a pity party.0 -
quote:Originally posted by cheeze
Never spend time asking people on the internet or anywhere else how to meet chicks. As soon as you start worrying about it it's all over. Girls spot that neediness, however slight, from miles away. Life is your party, throw a good party and people will want to join in.
PS Never has anyone gotten laid at the end of a pity party.
most true post in this thread!0 -
Yeah, I always got a kick out of songs like Bob Segers "We've got tonite" or Boston's "Amanda".
Begging never worked for me.[:D]0 -
Hate to put it this way, but,..........when I was your age, and until my mid thirties, I never had a problem finding women.
Just get involved in some activities where women are around, and if you display yourself correctly,i.e. "self-confidence", you will attract some.
Make a point when the word "sex" comes into the pic, to not be drunk, and "perform" well![:D]
Make sure they get as much, or more enjoyment out of it, as you.
Once you do that, women talk, and it will spread through their friends, and you will be so busy, you don't know what to do, and will want a break!
Only downside to my theory, and actions, was a lot of nights being called "really bad names", and getting slapped, for going after the friends that heard. They presented themselves to me, but you will still be the bad guy, to the first, and then the next, as you move down the line!
Much less disease was around when I was your age though, so be extremely careful.
This advice is for having fun only,......not to find a "soulmate"!
I shall be held harmless should you follow my advice, and it works for you![:D][;)]
PS: this idea will also disqualify you from meeting Doug's daughters, or at least I would highly suggest so!0 -
As soon as you stop looking then she will find you. Spend more time at Church or spend some time volunteering. 0 -
The best things to help you....
- Be a good listener, even if you don't give any advice. They just want someone to talk to and confide in. Once you get their trust, they will feel safe with you and really enjoy your company.
- Have a good sense of humor. Steer away from the ultra corny or grotesque humor at first, until you really get to know one another. Even then, she may not appreciate the gross stuff. She may have a bad memory that will be brought out if you make a bad joke or comment. A good taste in humor is very important.
- Learn to cook. They say the fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Same for a woman. Learn what fine foods she likes, and learn to cook them. I have made a few women melt from my cooking. Asian, mexican, sea food, etc. Knowledge about wine and good beer is also a plus.
- Drop your bad habits. Smoking, laziness, etc. Get out to the gym, or jog a little bit. Do it for yourself more than anything. Whiten your teeth, keep the mane trimmed (along with, nevermind). Stay clean and well groomed.
- Show confidence. There is a fine line between self confidence and cockiness. DON'T be cocky. They hate it. Women tend to like older men, act older than you really are. Don't brag about your possessions, income, etc, unless asked. Don't get real loud or crazy if she goes out with you and your friends. BE A GENTLEMAN. If you exude self confidence, they will come to you.
- Do not be clingy. If she doesn't call you, don't worry. Go out with some friends or just relax at home. Call her in a few days, just to see if she wants to grab dinner.
- Spontaneity is also key. Do something different, something on a whim. Once you do the dating thing, take a weekend trip somewhere, or go to a different type of venue.
- Be caring, courteous, and sensitive. It's easy to be these and masculine at the same time. Be strong and assertive at the same time. Don't act like a hard ass.
- Maybe some new Dubs. If you just do the Jeans/Tshirt get up, day in and day out, try relaxed fitting jeans and a button up dress shirt with a pair of casual dress shoes. BELT MATCHES THE SHOES, and no Woven belts. Go for a pair of square toed shoes. Brown shoes? Brown coat/jacket and belt. Black shoes, same thing. Good color button dress shirts are white, light blue, and pink (yes, pink. If you can pull off pink and not look gay, you're a real man). They will go with either black, brown, and jeans. Wear a hat 24/7? Lose it.
DO NOT CHECK OUT OTHER WOMEN WHEN SEEING A GIRL FOR THE FIRST FEW TIMES. If you must talk to a woman, waitress, bartender, etc, keep your eyes on hers, not her butt, bust, etc.
Your clothes, appearance, attitude, and behavior with draw them in. Your attitude and behavior will keep them.
FLAME on.....0 -
The best girls are found at the shootin' range. 0 -
quote:Originally posted by cubslover
The best things to help you....
- Be a good listener, even if you don't give any advice. They just want someone to talk to and confide in. Once you get their trust, they will feel safe with you and really enjoy your company.
- Have a good sense of humor. Steer away from the ultra corny or grotesque humor at first, until you really get to know one another. Even then, she may not appreciate the gross stuff. She may have a bad memory that will be brought out if you make a bad joke or comment. A good taste in humor is very important.
- Learn to cook. They say the fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Same for a woman. Learn what fine foods she likes, and learn to cook them. I have made a few women melt from my cooking. Asian, mexican, sea food, etc. Knowledge about wine and good beer is also a plus.
- Drop your bad habits. Smoking, laziness, etc. Get out to the gym, or jog a little bit. Do it for yourself more than anything. Whiten your teeth, keep the mane trimmed (along with, nevermind). Stay clean and well groomed.
- Show confidence. There is a fine line between self confidence and cockiness. DON'T be cocky. They hate it. Women tend to like older men, act older than you really are. Don't brag about your possessions, income, etc, unless asked. Don't get real loud or crazy if she goes out with you and your friends. BE A GENTLEMAN. If you exude self confidence, they will come to you.
- Do not be clingy. If she doesn't call you, don't worry. Go out with some friends or just relax at home. Call her in a few days, just to see if she wants to grab dinner.
- Spontaneity is also key. Do something different, something on a whim. Once you do the dating thing, take a weekend trip somewhere, or go to a different type of venue.
- Be caring, courteous, and sensitive. It's easy to be these and masculine at the same time. Be strong and assertive at the same time. Don't act like a hard ass.
- Maybe some new Dubs. If you just do the Jeans/Tshirt get up, day in and day out, try relaxed fitting jeans and a button up dress shirt with a pair of casual dress shoes. BELT MATCHES THE SHOES, and no Woven belts. Go for a pair of square toed shoes. Brown shoes? Brown coat/jacket and belt. Black shoes, same thing. Good color button dress shirts are white, light blue, and pink (yes, pink. If you can pull off pink and not look gay, you're a real man). They will go with either black, brown, and jeans. Wear a hat 24/7? Lose it.
Your clothes, appearance, attitude, and behavior with draw them in. Your attitude and behavior will keep them.
FLAME on.....
Cubs,.......I agree with you on what you have written, if someone is looking for a "mate".
What I wrote was about finding "fun", and nothing else.
We are from different generations on top of it all, so WE do not see things the same, nor am I aware of how "young" women are today, in the dating scene. They appear at least as wild, if not more, than when I was your age.
You are married at a young age, and happy, so I will not "flame" your advice by any means.
I thought the guy was looking for some fun, not to get married!
Ooooppppps![:0][:D]0 -
He'll never get laid at the rate he's going now, oopps sorry Steven.
I'm only kidding.
I agree Marc, finding "fun" is different then finding a mate.
Some of those suggestions still stand for finding a good looking woman who find you attractive enough to bleen.
The clothes, appearance, and behaviors should still be the same.
Not much "talking" goes on when your wrapped up in the sheets or bumpin uglies in the neighbor's hot tub, etc. The spontaneous thing doesn't matter either.0 -
Quit caring.
It shows.
Doug0 -
quote:Originally posted by cubslover
He'll never get laid at the rate he's going now, oopps sorry Steven.
I'm only kidding.
I agree Marc, finding "fun" is different then finding a mate.
Some of those suggestions still stand for finding a good looking woman who find you attractive enough to bleen.
Once again,.....I agree.
I have always been a good cook, definite plus!
I am very neat, and my home has always looked like I was married, and had a wife to keep it neat and clean.
Couldn't tell you how many times I had to prove that I was single, because they thought no "man" could be that neat.[:D]
I always dressed very nicely,.......notice I said that in the past tense!
I was also very "romantic",......you know what I mean.
Here comes the gay stuff again![:D]
You gave him some good advice!
He probably doesn't need to follow mine in this day![xx(]
I am finished with that, but man did I have a LOT of fun, back in the day.0 -
There are 2 schools of thought on this. One is that you just uit looking and the "perfect one" will somehow find you.
Or..........
Just when you've gotten the hang of womanizing and are having the time of your life w/3 or 4 girlfriends, the "Perfect One" will absolutely without any doubt come and SCREW EVERYTHING UP!0 -
quote:Originally posted by Fatstrat
Just when you've gotten the hang of womanizing and are having the time of your life w/3 or 4 girlfriends, the "Perfect One" will absolutely without any doubt come and SCREW EVERYTHING UP!
Dang. Two years ago my hot tub was rivaled only by those featured on CSI. Now no one has been in it in over a month. Stupid Mrs Right makin me all "complete" and everything.0 -
It is kinda like hunting deer, if your in the right spot at the right time and you have all the right tools knowing all to well how to use them. 0 -
quote:Originally posted by cheeze
quote:Originally posted by Fatstrat
Just when you've gotten the hang of womanizing and are having the time of your life w/3 or 4 girlfriends, the "Perfect One" will absolutely without any doubt come and SCREW EVERYTHING UP!
Dang. Two years ago my hot tub was rivaled only by those featured on CSI. Now no one has been in it in over a month. Stupid Mrs Right makin me all "complete" and everything.
In 5 years you will have sold it to make room for a flower garden with a goldfish pond.0 -
quote:Originally posted by Fatstrat
quote:Originally posted by cheeze
quote:Originally posted by Fatstrat
Just when you've gotten the hang of womanizing and are having the time of your life w/3 or 4 girlfriends, the "Perfect One" will absolutely without any doubt come and SCREW EVERYTHING UP!
Dang. Two years ago my hot tub was rivaled only by those featured on CSI. Now no one has been in it in over a month. Stupid Mrs Right makin me all "complete" and everything.
In 5 years you will have sold it to make room for a flower garden with a goldfish pond.
[:D][:D]
Just make sure that you are ready for Ms. Right!0 -
Thanks for the Help and pep talks everyone.
I am feeling a lot better today[:)]0 -
Sincerity is very important to women. When you can fake that convincingly, you've got it made. 0
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