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dcon12
If you found out that you had inoperable cancer, would you tell your family? And why? Don
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  • 46270
    I would leave a letter.
    then I would find everything I needed.
    and attend a service at the west morland baptist chruch.
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  • MVP
    Yes I would.
    I have known a few to die from cancer. My Mom was one. One of my best friends also died last year from cancer.
    I believe it is important to let people know you are going to die and give them the oppourtunity to do things, by word or general help, that they would not normally do if they believed you were going to be around for several more years.
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  • whiteclouder
    quote:Originally posted by dcon12
    If you found out that you had inoperable cancer, would you tell your family? And why? Don


    That's one of those personal questions that cannot be answered generally. I would not have to tell my wife---she'd know five minutes after seeing her and being aware myself. I'm the kind of person who derives a lot of support from family and friends. I think if I had something as serious as cancer, I'd want them to know and help me cope with the uncertainty.

    I pray the question was purely rhetorical.

    Clouder..
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  • beantownshootah
    Depends on the circumstances.

    Remember, "cancer" isn't one disease, its dozens of different ones with different prognoses. Small cell lung cancer can kill you in 90 days, but you can live with metastatic prostate cancer for 20+ years.

    Personally, the answer would be "yes", I'd tell them, but only after I had already gotten all my affairs in order.

    As a practical matter, more likely than not if the family was close with the patient, they'd find out anyway, since its likely the cancer patient would be hospitalized at some point prior to death.
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  • beantownshootah
    quote:Originally posted by bull300wsm
    I found out in the last few weeks that I have prostate cancer. I told my immediate family all but my young children (12,10&6). I think it helps me to try and deal with this.Also the news has spread somewhat throughout the family. I believe people want to help in their own way and maybe right a few wrongs. I know I need to tell a few that I am sorry for things I said or done to them and give them the chance also. Just my thoughts.....Bull

    Sorry to hear it.

    I wrote my last post before reading this one.

    I'm sure you've heard this already, but so you know, prostate cancer is not the same thing as lung cancer. Many prostate cancers are low-grade and grow extremely slowly. In fact, most men who have prostate cancer ultimately end up dying of something else.
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