How much do you pay for daycare
We just started putting our new son into daycare. Our daycare costs now for 2 kids is @$1800/month - more than our mortgage[V]. Are your daycare costs as high as this? I had wanted a new AR[:)], but that won't be happening anytime soon. Dang, 1 month's daycare would buy it too. [xx(]
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I put my kids in collapsable kennels in the basement.[:D]
To be serious for a minute, $1800/month are you freakin' kiddin' me!!!!!0 -
quote:Originally posted by slipgate
We just started putting our new son into daycare. Our daycare costs now for 2 kids is @$1800/month - more than our mortgage[V]. Are your daycare costs as high as this? I had wanted a new AR[:)], but that won't be happening anytime soon. Dang, 1 month's daycare would buy it too. [xx(]
I think you can get 2 mexican cuties and a little on the side for that much[:0][}:)][:D]0 -
That is insane! 0 -
agreed: insane! 0 -
We've been very fortunate. We have a lady that babysits down the road that only charges $20/day (meals included). 0 -
you are being ripped off 0 -
quote:Originally posted by ECC
That is insane!
Yep.0 -
crazy! 0 -
your wacko to agree to that!
Ill do it for HALF that a month! [:D][:D]0 -
Freakin ridiculous!!! 0 -
Private skule for my chirrens don't cost that much!!!!! I'd be lookin' for a new daycare. Check the loacal churches. We pay $125/ week for the 1 yo to go to a private daycare. 0 -
Way, way, way too much for my area, but I live in the Midwest where we aren't nearly as sophisticated, and don't have to pay for it as a result. 0 -
I need to start chargin my daughter for keeping her two .
Would even give a family discount.0 -
I pay zero!
But I am home all the time doing the daycare myself.0 -
quote:Originally posted by SCorvers
Private skule for my chirrens don't cost that much!!!!! I'd be lookin' for a new daycare. Check the loacal churches. We pay $125/ week for the 1 yo to go to a private daycare.
Send them to public School. Don0 -
Hell for 1800 klinkies a month klinkies you could hire a nanny!!! 0 -
you mean...how much do you pay for someone else to raise your kids while youre out enjoying the financial freedom to increase income, when if, you just stayed home and raised them yourselves, your kids might turn out better from real parenting? so you got to step down a notch and give up those 5 cell phones and 4 cars and 3 vacations a year. such is life.
oh....sorry i forgot he question.
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Gotta go with Bobski-
You do not need a second income-rest assured. I did it in NJ and MA, with a stint in Detroit, so I know. It is not easy, nor is it terribly difficult.
Think that at least 3/4 of that second income is used to acquire that second income (think 1800 bucks you wouldn't need if she stayed home) think gas, lunches, clothing, etc. All used up to get less than 25% of the value. Plus, now that you both work, you both bust a s s on house upkeep too. You do dishes? Laundry? Clean house? Not me.
Your kids will be the kind of people you want to be around, and others want to be around. Day care raised kids have horrible behavior (in my experience, and speaking generally)Do yourself a favor-evaluate. Really, truly take a hard and objective look at what you are accomplishing....and what you aren't.0 -
$1800 is pretty good for the DC metro area. Our last place would have been $2400. Every place has a 6 months to a year wait for any daycare. We actually got very lucky to get into this place after only about a 5 month wait due to a lot of cancellations because we were like 25th on the list originally.
As far as "better" for the kids being at home. That is highly debateable. In this area, it is too expensive to live on 1 income. We could "probably" get by on just my income, but things would be very tight.
I here some people say, "I don't want my wife to have to work.". Well here's a news flash Mr. MSP, some women want a career! Some women don't want to be barefoot and pregnant all their life! Why don't you quit and let your wife work!
I think the kids are better off at daycare than at home. If I had my druthers, they'd be at home 2 days a week and at daycare 3. But there is no part-time daycare around here.
Some people look at daycare as a choice people make because they are greedy. I think children get a much better social upbringing when they are in daycare - same as with public school (as apposed to private school or homeschooling).
A friend of mine's son was thought to be autistic as he was severely speech delayed and had other developmental issues, he was at home all day with his non-working mom until 4 1/2. So he put him in daycare and within 6 months he was almost at the level he should be at.
So I guess by the responses that y'alls daycare costs are less than mine! Yes, you can acutally make a pretty good living just by doing daycare in the DC area. For in-home daycare, you are allowed 2 infants and 4 toddlers. Typically you get $275 for infants and $175 for toddlers. And working at home you can write off everything. So that comes to $65k/year gross!0 -
We pay around $500.00/mo for daycare.
I love "Mayberry"0 -
Because of our schedules, Abby only goes 3 afternoons a week, however my oldest daughter (single Mom), pays $600/month for my grandson.
For home daycare, around $100/week is the norm ... institutional care, such as La Petite Academy and Kindercare, $150 - $225/week depending on age.
We could have changed our schedules so that there would always be someone home, but kids need the interaction and social skills that daycare provides ... regardless of the type of daycare you choose, nothing replaces doing your homework ... and dropping in unannounced.0 -
I was lucky.
Trusted family friend and stay-at-home mom, watched my daughter from 6 months - 3 years for the ungodly cost of $50/week.
By the time my son came along, my Mom had retired from the school system, and she and Dad took over, for nothing more than the pleasure and opportunity to spend time with their grandchildren.
I was lucky to have parents in close proximity who were both able and willing to do this, because frankly, if a parent can't be there, they are the next best thing. No one makes a child believe they are the center of the universe (read: has the time and patience) like a grandparent.
It is a shame that there are not more situations like this, with our highly mobile society, disjointed families, and grandparents who have the attitude that "I raised my children, I'm not raising yours." Make what disparaging comments you wish about it "taking a village," but I believe that this was once the very natural and expected (and even anticipated by the granparents once upon a time) progression of resposibility, and my kids have benefitted greatly from the gifts that my parents time have given them.
It is a disgrace that parent's are asked to pay out the nose for supposedly 'quality' daycare, however, day care providers are among the lowest-paid full-time employees in the country. Most day care centers requst no employment requirements than a high school diploma and a background check for record of prior abuse conviction, and no additional early child development, health, or first aid training. They are asked to do the most important job in the world, to keep the next generation of children safe, happy, and to be a partner with the parents in assuring their children are on the right track of development when the parents' cannot be there, and yet are expected to do so for a smile, the eternal gratitude of the parents, and the satisfaction it gives them to do so.0 -
central ny area runs about 100-150 per kid per week. i agree with some above. i work some over time and side jobs rather than my wife going to work. i was raised with my mother at home and think it is the best way. living on a farm my mother worked in the summers but even then it was my grandmother coming over to the house to watch up. 0 -
The social skills gained in day care are far less than the detriment of being there. Those touting the importance of it are justifying it to themselves. You will always be better off raising your own children.
If my wife made what I made, I would stay home. Any woman willing to put her selfish desire for a career over the well-being of her children has no place in my home and doesn't deserve the blessing of having them.0 -
quote:Originally posted by codenamepaul
The social skills gained in day care are far less than the detriment of being there. Those touting the importance of it are justifying it to themselves. You will always be better off raising your own children.
If my wife made what I made, I would stay home. Any woman willing to put her selfish desire for a career over the well-being of her children has no place in my home and doesn't deserve the blessing of having them.
Ah, yes, however, some of us have their hands played for them, and were not given a choice. My divorce was immenent by the time my son was 3. My ex and I struggled financially with 2 incomes, and frankly, by the time he was out the door, and off for greener patures, "stay at home" is not an option or a luxury that I nor many women have.
Please refrain from making blanket statements implying that all women who work full time and have children are somehow less deserving parents than those who do not, unless you know the particulars of the case.0 -
Never meant to imply that a single working mother fell into that catagory. She has no choice-as I'm sure you didn't. But a woman who chooses to put her career ahead of her offspring has her priorities screwed.
Bottom line is-you can afford to go single income. I've done it and maintained it in the most expensive markets in the country. You have to want it. Like I said, most of that second income is used to acquire that second income. It it not a huge stretch to say you can go without it. Run the numbers.0 -
rcrxs is spot-on. I do agree, however, that children are much better behaved when not in daycare. I have made this observation many times to my parents (we were latch-key kids by 7). They do not understand the "daycare" generation. Daycare-gen parents need to be very diligent in discipline.
I really do not see much of a detriment to daycare other than losing a bit of "quality" time with the children (for one parent anyway). At daycare, my daughter has many friends and a ton of activities to keep her busy. She loves going and is excited every day. The "teachers" also teach them kids numbers, letters and other schoolage stuff, so they are engaging their minds often. Our daycare is somewhat unique however in that they are trying to get accredited as a learning center. I agree that many daycare centers are merely babysitting services. But even then they kids have activities. Probably the worst daycare for the kids is the in-home where there are few kids of disparate ages.
My wife and I have pretty much cut out TV so that we can spend time with our children when we get home from work (2-3 hours). We go to the park, for walks, swimming and a bunch of other activities. We also are fairly strict disciplinarians and our daughter is very-well behaved. You do almost need to "deprogram" the little syrups from some of the stuff they pick up at daycare.
BTW: My wife is a professional accountant (imagine that, a woman that has an education and can think for herself) and makes almost as much as I do. She is not making just a bit more than daycare costs.0 -
Of course not, but a signifigant percentage goes to getting that second income.
I have no doubt about anyone on this board doing the best they can for their children, Please don't misconstrue my ramblings as a criticism of you personally.0 -
Just to expound on how I did it. My wife is a teacher, so she isn't exactly a slug.
Get rid of the second car. She can drive you or do without. My wife would run her errands when I got home and this gave her some "down" time and me some "quality" time. It also saved insurance, maintenance, and gas.
She no longer needed to maintain a sizeable wardrobe and make-up. As you know-your wife cannot go to work in sweats. But she can stay home in them.
Bag the cell phones altogether, if they are not needed for work. If they are-let work pay for them. Cable can be minimized, but (for me) not eliminated, tho' some do. Go to free internet access or cheaper access.
Lunches were no longer needed outside the house. She made the ones I was buying and had hers at home.
MOST IMPORTANT- Take your wife to dinner-without the kids-at least every other week. Insist she "doll-up" for it.0 -
quote:Originally posted by codenamepaul
Gotta go with Bobski-
You do not need a second income-rest assured. I did it in NJ and MA, with a stint in Detroit, so I know. It is not easy, nor is it terribly difficult.
Think that at least 3/4 of that second income is used to acquire that second income (think 1800 bucks you wouldn't need if she stayed home) think gas, lunches, clothing, etc. All used up to get less than 25% of the value. Plus, now that you both work, you both bust a s s on house upkeep too. You do dishes? Laundry? Clean house? Not me.
Your kids will be the kind of people you want to be around, and others want to be around. Day care raised kids have horrible behavior (in my experience, and speaking generally)Do yourself a favor-evaluate. Really, truly take a hard and objective look at what you are accomplishing....and what you aren't.
I have to agree. We make sacrifices so that my wife can raise our daughter.0
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