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Using Firefox, went to photobucket. My home album displays for a second or two then goes to a white screen. I tried to contact them but the same thing happens, it shows for a second then goes to a white page
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With all due respect CP, stay away!
Unless you sense a separation coming on, stay away. And even then, make sure everything is taken care of before moving on. Divorce lawyers show no remorse for wiping the floor with someone who has ruined and spoiled a relationship with their infidelity.
It's just a conversation, now. It may progress to something else.
BTDT, although there was no cheating involved. It's not an experience I wish to go through again.0 -
quote:Originally posted by 46270
If you love your wife, you better get your mind
and your other ideas back to where they belong.
I'm in doubt because she is. bout two weeks ago she said she didn't know why we got married and wasn't sure if she loved me any more. I love her, but if its in vain...0 -
quote:Originally posted by duckhunter
Get a GOOD lawyer.
And quit putting ANYTHING in writing; even on here. When my 'ex' went astray (decided she liked a lawyer better than me) she had a PI follow me, tapped the phone and even went through my mail. SHE WAS THE ONE CHEATING!! But she desparately wanted to get something on me, either to make herself feel better or give herself a defensable position.
You need to prepare yourself for the worst, even if it doesn't happen.0 -
I need to slow down and think all of this through. 0 -
To continue wiithout resolving the "wife" situation will break your mind. Get rid of the wife if you think you must and move on. Ot work out your problems with your wife. STOP with the Current deal. 0 -
Good choice to not talk to MN girl right now but you need to find a way to get your wife talking. The two of you need to be talking about how to repair your relationship or how to end it amicably. 0 -
The current deal has stopped. I did some soul searching at work and I need to clean this mess up. 0 -
It's not easy for any of us to do, but try to be rigorously and completely honest with your self when looking at the situation. Try to veiw it objectively and logically with out emotional "reasoning".
Just my 2 cents worth.0 -
Piss off, glad all of your lives are Norman Rockwell perfect. 0 -
From a near experience, stop now. 0 -
Cat- work out what you need to with your other half. Quit chatting with the other- now. I said NOW. Otherwise, you will regret this. The advice to quit putting anything in writing is sound- run a google search on your screen name, and it will take you to your postings here. And, yeah, lawyers and PI's know that little trick. When I was about 17, my Dad asked if I had given a name to my male organ of reproduction. Told me it was not right to have the key decisions in my life made by someone that I did not know his name! BTW- He was right- at that time, was not thinking with my brains, but my gonads. Good luck, bro- but you KNOW what you need to do with this. You don't need us to tell you. 0 -
Cat, I read your goin' down the drain post, and think you need to count your loses and move on. As you know there are alot more fish in the sea. I don't want to be with someone that doesn't know if they want to be with me. I want a woman that wants to be with me. Have had my share and then some of trying to keep a bad relationship together.(and there were two kids involved) Get the hell out of a bad situation and keep looking for a good one. Life is too short. My 2cents. 0 -
catpealer111
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Posted - 03/29/2007 : 10:05:10 PM
I've been talking to a female member of the species(who is not my wife) for a couple of weeks now. Only been conversing over the telephone, haven't met face to face. I've talked with her more in two weeks than I have with Renee in 4 months. WTH am I doing?
When you say "I've talked with her more in two weeks than I have with Renee in 4 months." It makes red flag fly! Watch out ... and get in touch with you dear wife before everything hits the fan! No, the lives of many of us are not "Norman Rockwell perfect" people but since you asked: "WTH am I doing?" I think you're making a big mistake.
As has been said, "Many have walked a mile with the Devil who never intended to take the second step! Please do turn back now!0 -
Take it from an old man who has been there and done that. GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS AND START TALKING TO YOUR WIFE AND GET THE HELL OFF THE PHONE!!! STUPID STUPID STUPID!!!!! [:(] 0 -
There is a woman I used to work with that was constantly looking for a lawsuit. Sex harassment. Discrimination. Whatever. She is like a stray cat with the mange. Anything she says or does out of the ordinary has alternative motives. It's noisy in the workplace and you have to speak right in to the other person's ear. She ALWAYS tries to brush her breast up against you. It's rather annoying when you know the game she is playing
When she says Tom, the guy she is working with, is being mean to her, she wants and hopes the company does nothing but blow it off. While it was a baseless claim without merit, she is trying to build her case that the company has ignored her claims.
Basically, the woman is was trying to set the company up for a lawsuit. She documented everything from her position. THe company also investigates every claim aggressively, documents what they see and believe. It's a weird game, but the company can't fire her. While her job performance is poor, she does her job good enough to get by.
I would not trust a woman that says "it's OK to see other woman."
I would stay far away from that advice. If it's not too late. Keep a journal. Document every conversation of attempted conversation with her. Cover your butt. Even if your not ready to get a lawyer now, play it safe. If your just being friendly to another woman and admit it too her, you've started down the road of giving her the reason.
Then again, if you don't want to call the lawyer first, which I can understand. Perhaps you still have some feelings for her, and you feel it would be wrong to be the bad guy by filing the divorce. Then give her what she wants. Go find another woman, have an affair, and tell her. She files the divorce, your the bad guy, and your pay check can go to her. This is not good advice. It is terrible advice, but I bet other's have done it when they were confused and thought it was an easy way out.0 -
Too many who claim that they are in love are actually in love with the idea of marriage. Men get married because they have the idea that marriage will make them whole. In reality, the marriage will only leave a hole when it dissolves. Of course this is all speculation on my part. Don 0 -
Renee is the one not answering her phone when I call her. I'd love to talk to her in person but I can't since she never moved to Minot in the first place, and after 10 months, clearly has no intention to.
This has gotten out of hand, the next moderator who reads this, please delete this thread.0 -
Rosie, these are young people don't try to confuse them with logic.[:D] 0 -
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Originally posted by duckhunter
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A marriage takes two. If marriage is important to you then you need to either totally quit talking to the Mn. woman or tell the Mn. woman you are married and not available (clearly with out mixed signals). You need to see the Chaplin and/or the person that married you two. You need to go on leave and have a surprise visit home. Keep in mind that there is something wrong. It could be a disagreement. It could be stress from third party problems eg. duty station location. It could be you did or are doing something wrong like not supporting her. It could be she does not have the character to keep marriage vows. Talk, find out the problem. Try to solve it. Remember, even if you don't like your job, there are people with spouces and families that depend on you to do your part. 0 -
If I were you, I'd call Hillary Clinton up on the phone.... Keeping a relationship together in bad times is the one thing I have to say she is the best at..... 0 -
10 months without your wife and she won't move with you?!?! Its over dude move on. As hard as it may seem, thats what you need to do.
Good luck bud, It will work out in the end believe it or not.0 -
been their done that twice, i think you need to back off from both
for a while mabe week or two. then try to make a list of pros and cons for both, but be honest with your self, that is the most important thing cause you can fool your self very easly.
i think you are gong to stay out of it with both for a while, if it
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I hope the mods will not delete this thread. This is a valuable thread.
catpealer, ignore the smartass remarks, you are going to get those on this forum on any subject.
I give you credit for bringing up this problem on this forum.
As to your remark:
"I'm in doubt because she is. bout two weeks ago she said she didn't know why we got married and wasn't sure if she loved me any more. I love her, but if its in vain..."
You also said that she refused to move to where you are. This is bad sign number one. You also said she hasn't returned your phone calls in three or four months. This is bad signs numbers two and three!
Your marriage is in deep trouble, and perhaps over.
I gotta tell you, young women need company. They want someone to talk to, and someone to physically be with. I hate to say it, but there is a good chance that your wife has a boyfriend.
I agree with the many posters, including the smart asses, who tell you to keep away from the new girl.
But, you need to get a leave of a few weeks, and go to where your wife is and see what is going on.
When she tell you that she doesn't know why she got married, and is not sure if she loves you any more, this is female speech for, "I have a new boyfriend."0 -
I got the first two weeks off in May. 0 -
YEA ALLEN HAS A GOOD IDEA, IT ALL SOUNDS LIKE SHE MAY NOT CARE,
ATLEAST YOU CAN BE PREPARED FO IT, IF SO.0 -
griggs is absolutely right on the money, your wife has found somebody else. Prepare yourself for that circumstance. 0 -
No advise here CP, just glad I'm not you. Not being a smart a**, I've been through a divorce once and will never get married again. 0 -
quote:Originally posted by catpealer111
WTH am I doing?
Setting yourself up for a divorce at least, or a hurt wife for life at worst.
If you want out, divorce Renee and move on. If not, stay away from the other girl and be true to your vows.0
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