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  • woodshermit
    Contribute the minimal reasonable amount of money that you can spare to his campaign effort. If he asks for your time or endorsement, you can say that your belief is that family and politics don't mix and you respectfully decline to participate beyond your monetary contribution. Telling him what you think of him personally is to be avoided as that is what is likely to cause problems with other family members. Often what gets us into trouble is not knowing when to stop talking. Good luck.
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  • Queen of Swords
    Wow, I don't envy your dilemma, and I really don't have any advice, other than to say you need to make a decision that you can live with.

    To resond to the original question, and to most of the responses to that, I say pish-posh.

    You mean to tell me none of you ever in your adult life:
    -Told a lie to extract yourself from an uncomfortable situation or for some profit?
    -Conversely, omitted to provide information to the same ends?
    -Did something dishonest when you knew you could get away with it?
    -Over/under-exagerated to suit your point?
    -Broke a law that you felt was unjust?

    To ask a person whether they are honest, especially in a nameless, faceless Internet forum, and to expect them to respond in any other manner than "yessiree, honest as the day is long" is sort of pointless.
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  • Colt Super
    "-Broke a law that you felt was unjust?'
    - rcxs old lady

    Well... you got me with that one. I do it all the time, as it is my duty as a Citizen to fight that which is unjust at every opportunity.

    Doug
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  • He Dog
    quote:Originally posted by Marc1301
    I would just say that I was going to stay out of it,........BECAUSE he is a relative. No need to even go into the real reason why.


    This is a good way to deal with it. Another would be to find a candidate you can support, explain you have already commited to support another candidate and then do so.
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  • zipperzap
    .. I'm from California.
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  • nord
    The answer is simple...

    You have to sleep at night. Those little voices can get awfully loud if you mess up.

    Perhaps... "I can't support you in good faith" will work. You may also add that you're not judging, nor will you make your feelings public.

    If he asks, then truthfully give your reasons. Do it as kindly as possible. Make sure he knows that your refusal bears no malice.
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  • JamesRK
    quote:Originally posted by rcrxs old lady
    Wow, I don't envy your dilemma, and I really don't have any advice, other than to say you need to make a decision that you can live with.

    To resond to the original question, and to most of the responses to that, I say pish-posh.

    You mean to tell me none of you ever in your adult life:
    -Told a lie to extract yourself from an uncomfortable situation or for some profit?
    -Conversely, omitted to provide information to the same ends?
    -Did something dishonest when you knew you could get away with it?
    -Over/under-exagerated to suit your point?
    -Broke a law that you felt was unjust?

    To ask a person whether they are honest, especially in a nameless, faceless Internet forum, and to expect them to respond in any other manner than "yessiree, honest as the day is long" is sort of pointless.

    I think you misunderstood the original question. He didn't ask who here is perfect or never does anything wrong. He asked who has a conscience, and feels remorse after doing the things on your list.

    Anybody who never feels remorse for anything is a psychopath. The law of averages and simple logic tells me there are probably a few psychopaths on the board, but I believe it is very few. I would like to think none.
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  • guntech59
    quote:Originally posted by tomahawk
    now to answer my own, i have always followed my heart and listened to that inner voice,both for guidance and for that extra edge in psysical strength when needed. now the problem. a family member that has chosen to run for a public office, wants help in getting elected, he needs a job, has degrees in business and finance, and is a good people person. my word is good to all i know, he knows this, and it would bring him many votes. the problem is i have seen his colors many times, a self serving person that can be swayed for self gain. i cannot in good judgement support him. how would you handle this without family problems arising.[V]


    Tell him the truth! You already know the right thing to do.
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  • Permanently deleted user
    quote:Originally posted by tomahawk
    now to answer my own, i have always followed my heart and listened to that inner voice,both for guidance and for that extra edge in psysical strength when needed. now the problem. a family member that has chosen to run for a public office, wants help in getting elected, he needs a job, has degrees in business and finance, and is a good people person. my word is good to all i know, he knows this, and it would bring him many votes. the problem is i have seen his colors many times, a self serving person that can be swayed for self gain. i cannot in good judgement support him. how would you handle this without family problems arising.[V]


    Tell him that in good conscience you can't support him and why. Just a thought, albeit a tough thing to do, it is the truth.
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  • bikrprchr
    I do and I pay attention to how those I associate with conduct themselves.

    Case in point, recently I purchased two cases of shotgun shells (20 boxes) and the checker range them up as two items for a total of $8.66 cents. I corrected her mistake and told her the price should have been about 10 times that amount. She then rang up the other 18 boxes of shells and I paid the correct amount. A fellow that I know was watching this transaction and he said he would have paid the first amount and left. His feeling was that her mistake wasn't his problem. He didn't like it when I pointed out that I wasn't willing to compromise my reputation by stealing 18 boxes of shotgun shells.
    He seemed baffled by the concept and the influence of conscience on my life. I will be keeping an eye on him in our future dealings for sure.
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  • tomahawk
    i thank you guys for your responses, i have been sitting , reading , thinking. i shall tell him the truth, and why, and will also let him know that if he continues to use me as a reference, then i shall inform those contacting me,of my non support for him. i will not allow him to use me and my values as a step up for his ways. thanks all

    tomahawk[V]
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  • Permanently deleted user
    quote:Originally posted by tomahawk
    i thank you guys for your responses, i have been sitting , reading , thinking. i shall tell him the truth, and why, and will also let him know that if he continues to use me as a reference, then i shall inform those contacting me,of my non support for him. i will not allow him to use me and my values as a step up for his ways. thanks all

    tomahawk[V]


    Tough stuff, but a good decision, regardless of the consequences. My hat is off to you sir.
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  • pickenup
    quote:Originally posted by lt496
    quote:Originally posted by tomahawk
    i thank you guys for your responses, i have been sitting , reading , thinking. i shall tell him the truth, and why, and will also let him know that if he continues to use me as a reference, then i shall inform those contacting me,of my non support for him. i will not allow him to use me and my values as a step up for his ways. thanks all

    tomahawk[V]


    Tough stuff, but a good decision, regardless of the consequences. My hat is off to you sir.



    +1
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  • mateomasfeo
    quote:Originally posted by tomahawk
    i thank you guys for your responses, i have been sitting , reading , thinking. i shall tell him the truth, and why, and will also let him know that if he continues to use me as a reference, then i shall inform those contacting me,of my non support for him. i will not allow him to use me and my values as a step up for his ways. thanks all

    tomahawk[V]


    Brass balls.

    Let us know how it plays out...
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  • Civil Rights
    Civil Rights:

    Please consider yourself warned.

    I won't warn you again.

    nunn
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  • tomahawk
    you have come on my post and self admitted felonious acts. civil rights i do not wish to correspond with you any further. i will not answer any posts from you and you leave my post alone. this post will be turned over to authorities today[;)][:(!]
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  • Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by Civil Rights
    Originally posted by tomahawk
    who here has a conscience, one that when you do right you feel good , and when you do wrong it bothers you until you correct it[?]



    i shall reply with my answer in a bit


    wow.

    your a smart one
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  • bigtire
    Well you do have one thing right. For you there will be only cells.
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  • JamesRK
    tomahawk, I think he was being sarcastic and maybe an attempt at humor. He is mistaken though. a conscience is not derived from religion. Most people who claim no religion at all have a conscience. The absence of a conscience is a whole different quandary.
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  • Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by JamesRK
    tomahawk, I think he was being sarcastic and maybe an attempt at humor. He is mistaken though. a conscience is not derived from religion. Most people who claim no religion at all have a conscience. The absence of a conscience is a whole different quandary.
    I personally see nothing humorous or sarcastic.
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  • JamesRK
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    I personally see nothing humorous or sarcastic.

    I don't think it's funny either, but that doesn't mean it wasn't what he was trying for. I don't really know what he was trying to do, but that was the impression I got.
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  • Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by JamesRK
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    I personally see nothing humorous or sarcastic.

    I don�t think it�s funny either, but that doesn�t mean it wasn�t what he was trying for. I don�t really know what he was trying to do, but that was the impression I got.


    The impression i got was having 3 different people read and screenshot it, i have 4 screenshots and a 12 page printout of what was said.
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  • kimi
    quote:Originally posted by zipperzap
    .. I'm from California.


    That says it all! [:D]
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  • Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by kimi
    quote:Originally posted by zipperzap
    .. I'm from California.


    That says it all! [:D]
    and then some [B)][B)] [:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]
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  • 1911a1-fan
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by JamesRK
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    I personally see nothing humorous or sarcastic.

    I don�t think it�s funny either, but that doesn�t mean it wasn�t what he was trying for. I don�t really know what he was trying to do, but that was the impression I got.


    The impression i got was having 3 different people read and screenshot it, i have 4 screenshots and a 12 page printout of what was said.



    time to go offline your taking this sheet way to serious
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  • kimi
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by kimi
    quote:Originally posted by zipperzap
    .. I'm from California.


    That says it all! [:D]
    and then some [B)][B)] [:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]


    There you go Jake. Have a good day, buddy. [8D]
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  • Sav99
    Tomahawk, this is a tough predicament being a family member is involved. But being the man of integrity that you are, you are doing the right thing. Which of course is not always the easiest thing.
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  • Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by 1911a1fan
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by JamesRK
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    I personally see nothing humorous or sarcastic.

    I don�t think it�s funny either, but that doesn�t mean it wasn�t what he was trying for. I don�t really know what he was trying to do, but that was the impression I got.


    The impression i got was having 3 different people read and screenshot it, i have 4 screenshots and a 12 page printout of what was said.



    time to go offline your taking this sheet way to serious

    Think a sheriff will too?

    get over it, whats done is done
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  • 1911a1-fan
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by 1911a1fan
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    quote:Originally posted by JamesRK
    quote:Originally posted by Jacob2008
    I personally see nothing humorous or sarcastic.

    I don�t think it�s funny either, but that doesn�t mean it wasn�t what he was trying for. I don�t really know what he was trying to do, but that was the impression I got.


    The impression i got was having 3 different people read and screenshot it, i have 4 screenshots and a 12 page printout of what was said.



    time to go offline your taking this sheet way to serious

    Think a sheriff will too?

    get over it, whats done is done


    good luck with that, now as a person of honor you have to let us know how it turns out[:)]
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  • needmyguns
    yes
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