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Would you take the call?

frog21
Just want some of you alls opinions.Last night was my B-day and my wife's daughter called to wish me one.We haven't spoken in over a year and a half.Last week she call my wife on the 21st,thinking it was my b-day,But my wife told her it wasn't til the 29th.Anyway the phone rang this week and my wife asked me if I was here.My answer was no.About the only times she's been descent to me in the 14yrs I've known her, was when she wanted something.So my question to you is, would you have taken the call?
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  • MrOrange
    Sure.

    I can be civil and courteous to someone while explaining there's not a snowball's chance in hell I'll be feeding their addiction, metaphorical or not.
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  • Old-Colts
    I don't know your situation, perhaps there is something serious in the past. However, I think I would have taken the call; maybe she was trying to reach out. I think we need to rise above our hurts and personal feelings if someone is attempting to make amends.
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  • fishkiller41
    X-RING Colts.. No-good to hold a grudge. It will only make you feel like sheite in the end..
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  • Mk 19
    It wouldn't have hurt your realtionship if you took the call, but avoiding the call didn't make anything better
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  • leftytwoguns
    Your wifes daughter? That would make her your stepdaughter. Do like my stepfather did, answer the call and talk in a condescending manner until she gives up and leaves you alone. Or be a gent. and grant a "do-over"
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  • 46270
    me and my mom hard\a fight, it lasted a long time.
    now that shes gone, I wished we could have made up
    sooner.
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  • frog21
    I have granted do overs in the past,just don't feel up to the drama right now.We had a Christmas party Dec.30th and she didn't say a word.If this was the first or second time,things would probably be different.But right now my give a dang is still healing.
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  • needmyguns
    life is way to short to hold grudges
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  • spurgemastur
    If it were me...

    ...if there any way I could take that call and be civil I would take it, because I think it's always best to make good if possible.

    That said, maybe there's a situation where a person can't be civil even on the phone for a happy b-day. If that were my situation, I wouldn't take the call. It's gotta be pretty bad if it gets to that.
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  • Permanently deleted user
    I would have taken the call...


    quote:About the only times she's been descent to me in the 14yrs I've known her, was when she wanted something.So my question to you is


    Doesnt sound overly serious unless you are not saying it all, she could be reaching out to you.....

    Might be a good time to review the past 14 years, check your own behavior to see if there was anything on your part that maybe helped make her the way you think she is?...Talk it over with your wife, how does she feel about the situation?
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  • COLT
    ...Yes I'd have taken the call, if I'd been in a good mood...which is not often...the getting "old" and given more lee-way to be a grouch has a lot to say for it [:D]

    ...Serious, yes, take the call! You can open up the lines of com and tell her A.what you think of her cheesy ways. B.work things out. C. verbally beat her to death as your older and should be quicker of witt. D. bury the hatchet and move on to become the Beaver Cleaver family. E. just bury the hatchet literally. You MISSED a golden opportunity to talk with her...[;)]

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  • jwb267
    take the call there might come a time you wish you would have
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  • Gotteskrieger
    tell your wife to take a message.
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  • frog21
    Well thanks for your opinions.
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  • spasmcreek
    NO....not no but HELL NO....hasn't give a snit for 14 years & doesn't know correct date is confirmation of that fact....my (ex) daughter is the greediest person in the world (oil income is around $1mil)& has worked tirelessly backstabbing me for many years to gain control of farms so now after a lifetime of building these up to top level (i am only one that ever farmed) i am living on social security because rest of family, also as greedy, believed all her crap & wanted to be sure to cash in so now they can all try to figure out how she will screw them & my wife & I are FREE...(my honesty, ethics & integrity are NOT negotiable) never to acknowledge them for the rest of our lives...my 2+++cts .....
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  • kimberkid
    My sister and middle daughter are both the same way ... either they want something or they are giving me a signal that they "might" need something in the near future

    Both are very manipulative and 90+% of the time tell me how rough they have it. I consider them sharing their woes trying to get me to feel guilty ... they are both a huge disappointment and are capable of so much if they would only put as much effort into making a life as they do trying to do things the "easy way"

    Depending on my mood, sometimes I take the call and I don't.


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  • CHEVELLE427
    WHAT WOULD IT HURT.
    maybe she is trying to make amends.

    guess it depends on why all the hurt,

    i have not spoke to my parents in 7 years and i [:(](THIS WAS OVER A MONEY THING. I HAD IT THEY WANTED IT NOW NEITHER US HAS ANY)[:(!][:(!]

    WOULD NOT TAKE THAT CALL IF THEY EVER CALLED ME.[:(!]
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  • mrseatle
    "as measured by men thou art the bravest knight in Christendom. Chivalrous, strong, yet gentle and ever ready to succor the weak and distressed. Your name shall be emblazoned as symbolic of chivalry."
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  • He Dog
    One of you needs to act like an adult.
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  • elkoholic
    quote:Originally posted by He Dog
    One of you needs to act like an adult.


    Short, concise, and to the point. Love it.
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  • Mercury
    Screw her! Everyone is all namby-pamby about "making amends" etc. Sometimes it is BETTER to not talk to certain people. Some people are just idiots, and don't deserve your time or energy!

    Merc
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  • twin60s
    quote:Originally posted by Mercury
    Screw her! Everyone is all namby-pamby about "making amends" etc. Sometimes it is BETTER to not talk to certain people. Some people are just idiots, and don't deserve your time or energy!

    Merc
    [:D]
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  • Sav99
    Of course I would have taken the call. What could it have hurt?
    Your wifes daughter does something seemingly nice, why not receive it?
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  • tacking1
    take the call...what he dog said
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  • River Rat
    You should have taken the call. Regardless of the past, she was reaching out to you in a civil gesture to wish you a happy birthday. My recommendation is to call her, mention you understand she called, and tell her thanks for the thought. This is obviously an attempt on her part to heal the rift between you two.
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  • sarge_3ad
    Maybe she just won the lottery and wants to share a cool million or two with you for your special day?
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  • kimberkid
    quote:Originally posted by River Rat
    You should have taken the call. Regardless of the past, she was reaching out to you in a civil gesture to wish you a happy birthday. My recommendation is to call her, mention you understand she called, and tell her thanks for the thought. This is obviously an attempt on her part to heal the rift between you two.
    I call back once in a while ... but as I mentioned above, I don't always take the call. After all, why should I "receive her" at her convenience!
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  • dcon12
    I will not refuse to talk to any of my kids no matter what has transpired. If they wish to hate me, they do it on their time. Don
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  • Captplaid
    quote:Originally posted by needmyguns
    life is way to short to hold grudges


    Amen.
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  • Permanently deleted user
    what is your wife's take in all of this??
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