Who hates life?
I do
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Drum or disk? Perhaps both? Disk = easy, drum = hard, disk and drum = hard. LOL 0 -
Life is good, stop and smell the roses, take a walk in the woods, take a kid fishing, "life is a gift" 0 -
I have always had kind of a love/hate relationship with life. So much pain, so much strife. Strife rhymes with life. It is a crazy roller coaster ride simultaneously exhilarating and exasperating.
We all experience tremendous highs and lows. I've had my share of both. I have been so low I wanted to end it all, and so high I wanted to burst with joy.
I no longer depend on those around me to supply happiness. I try not to blame those who supply the sorrow. As I have aged, and begun to realize how precious and fleeting life is, I now try to be the one to supply the happiness to others. It has helped me understand my existence. I am not good at at it, but I strive for it.
You've got friends here CAT, this is obvious. I don't know the underlying story here, but what ever it is you will come out the other side with clarity and a new lease on life. What's more you HAVE to come out the other side. It's our job.
I have no corner on the market of wisdom. I am a weak human fool like most of us. Let me know if I can help in some way.
Viva life!!0 -
Yes without bad we would never know good. 0 -
quote:Originally posted by Zulu7 Originally posted by catpealer111
I'm not going to go into details, because most of y'all know the back story. I need to drop some excess baggage still. I'm getting closer every day.
There is no glory in going down with the ship. None. Zero. Zilch. It is no benefit to beat yourself up because you cannot salvage this situation.
While I have a great wife and relationship with her. The best I can relate is a former job I had. I was transfered into a bad situation. The place was a mess. Environmentally, it had issues. Safety had similar problems. If OSHA showed up we had a lot of holes. (And OSHA was targeting this industry.) Maintenance also had issues. Much of the plant was severely run down. For the previous seven years a profit was made while letting the plant depreciate. In respect of the location, not the company, the ship was sinking, or at least I thought it was.
I did not want the facility to close on my watch. I took the position that I refused to let the place shut down on my watch. I was young and naive. The fight cost me a lot. I actually passed a week long OSHA audit with only $1,000 fine when corporate gave us no help and I corrected many of the environmental problems. We successfully had two week long shut downs for repairs without overruns and not meeting deadlines plus other repairs. When the time came where we sat down and talked about whether to keep the place open or closed the corporation decided to leave it opened.
While I refused to let the ship sink on my watch, it cost me greatly. I became an enemy to the other two managers at the facility and the new regional manager was more interested in covering up problems rather than correcting them. By this time, I was burned out and had no friends. Even the hourly employees hadn't realized how close we were to shutting the doors, or maybe they just preferred the idea of severance pay. I was an easy target for the other managers to throw me overboard.
The ship didn't sink, at least not as fast, but I was thrown off the ship. As a burned out mental wreck I was, I wasn't much use to any other company either. It took a while to find another job and a whole lot longer to get to the point where my job was remotely comparable to what I had.
Maybe I'm wrong here, but I see a similar situation with you. I see you as refusing to lose her. You don't want to see this marriage fail. You refuse to quit, but it's tearing you up. As much as I detests looking for a new job, I can imagine its much worse to have to initiate and follow through with a divorce. To continue this cheesie analogy, it's better to jump ship, and save your own mental health, than to go down with the ship or be thrown overboard.0 -
Life is what you make it and your attitude on how you deal with it.
When my head is on straight, life with all of it bumps,warts and
madness is still a good thing. Even when it is bad, I lean on the love and support of God, my family and friends and that gets me by.0 -
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What I hate about life is others that intentionally try to make others suffer and be miserable. Yes insecure people sometimes fit into this. 0 -
HunterMag,.........I used to be just like you![:D]
Had my own house to take care of , running my own business for almost 16 years now, was taking care of my mom and stepdads home, and paying their bills for them, and my dog, and theirs. He was dying at the time, and took a long time, most of it spent in out of town hospitals.
Like you, even though everyone knew how much I had on my plate, I constantly was asked for advice, help, to do work for them, or other family members of theirs even.
Finally one day, I said, "I've had enough of this".
Learn to say NO, when you don't have the time, and learn to say "I don't have a clue how to do that!"[:D]
You need to take control of your own life, and leave time for YOU to enjoy yourself. They will stop after awhile.
And also like you, even though I have always done most everything for myself,.........if I ever asked one of the "goodtime" friends for help on my end,..........oh sorry man, I'd really like to help you, but I've got a bad back, or knee, or foot, or they're too busy!
I will always help what family I have left, but the others? Only if I have time, and feel like it.
Take Control!![;)]0 -
Great advice Mateo. Thank you.
I find myself to dwell on my faults and failures as if that defines me. I think friends and 99.9% others look at my positive qualities, and think I'm a decent guy, but I ignore this obvious fact. There's not a week that goes by where I don't tell myself how disappointed I am with myself. Funny thing is, what I consider failures isn't crap in the big picture of my life. My accomplishments outnumber my failures 100 to 1. Other could care less about my failures but I often only see them.0 -
"he that has the son has life. he that does not have the son, does not have life."
" for this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, but man loved darkness rather than light. for all that come near light will have their deeds revealed."
God sent his son jesus into the world so that you could have life and have it more abundantly, catpealer111.
turn around, and ask jesus into your heart and learn what life IS, before you hate it. youve been sold a copy. duped. mislead. jesus says..."I AM THE WAY the truth, and the life."[;)]
to hate life is to hate God. God...IS LIFE.0 -
Marc I know what your saying and I've already told my friends "you know, the only time someone calls me it's not to see how I've been it's cause they want me to do something for them" Then they get pissed that I've wised up to them. Now I don't hear from them anymore. LOL
But I will never turn my back on my father. He needs help and I'm the only one in the family that will help him. The other will not lift a finger if they're not getting something for it. Pathetic...0 -
quote:Originally posted by bobski
"he that has the son has life. he that does not have the son, does not have life."
" for this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, but man loved darkness rather than light. for all that come near light will have their deeds revealed."
God sent his son jesus into the world so that you could have life and have it more abundantly, catpealer111.
turn around, and ask jesus into your heart and learn what life IS, before you hate it. youve been sold a copy. duped. mislead. jesus says..."I AM THE WAY the truth, and the life."[;)]
to hate life is to hate God. God...IS LIFE.
To hate anyting is to hate god. But hate is a human trait and god created man.0 -
quote: Now I don't hear from them anymore
Funny how your list of "friends" narrows down dramatically after taking a stand![;)]
They were never friends in the first place.
Personally, I am glad that I found out who my few REAL friends were. They were the ones that apologized for using me, at a time like that, and actually started asking me if I needed anything.0 -
There seems to be a good deal of confusion here. The statement "I hate life" (or, for that matter, the equally meaningless corollary "I love life") is not a statement about life at all, but rather how one stands in relation to its vicissitudes. Fact is, catpealer111's complaints would scarcely make a grain of salt in the ocean of horror and despair that have swallowed many for whom the thought "I hate life" is never even formulated, much less articulated. The point here is not just that catpealer111 wee-wees sitting down; it is that catpealer111 conveniently blames life rather than the real cause of his lament: Himself.
Consider: Suppose that for years on your way to and from work you walk past a house with a door that is painted black. For years you pay the door little notice, but one day you decide to stop and look at it. You say to yourself, "Yup, the door is black all right." You stare at it some more, and say again, "The door is black." You continue staring and thinking about the black door, and keep repeating "The door is black, the door is black, the door is black, OHMYGOD THE DOOR IS BLACK!!!" over and over until you are miserable about it. Now, is the cause of your misery really the black door which for years you paid little notice, or rather how you now "feel" about it?
To blame or congratulate life for one's perceived place in it is misdirected sentiment; the statements "I hate life" and "I love life" merely describe how one feels about one's own life, and this irrespective of the real or imagined fortunes and misfortunes which comprise it.0 -
quote:Originally posted by DancesWithSheep
There seems to be a good deal of confusion here. The statement "I hate life" (or, for that matter, the equally meaningless corollary "I love life") is not a statement about life at all, but rather how one stands in relation to its vicissitudes. Fact is, catpealer111's complaints would scarcely make a grain of salt in the ocean of horror and despair that have swallowed many for whom the thought "I hate life" is never even formulated, much less articulated. The point here is not just that catpealer111 wee-wees sitting down; it is that catpealer111 conveniently blames life rather than the real cause of his lament: Himself.
Consider: Suppose that for years on your way to and from work you walk past a house with a door that is painted black. For years you pay the door little notice, but one day you decide to stop and look at it. You say to yourself, "Yup, the door is black all right." You stare at it some more, and say again, "The door is black." You continue staring and thinking about the black door, and keep repeating "The door is black, the door is black, the door is black, OHMYGOD THE DOOR IS BLACK!!!" over and over until you are miserable about it. Now, is the cause of your misery really the black door which for years you paid little notice, or rather how you now "feel" about it?
To blame or congratulate life for one's perceived place in it is misdirected sentiment; the statements "I hate life" and "I love life" merely describe how one feels about one's own life, and this irrespective of the real or imagined fortunes and misfortunes which comprise it.
I understand all of which you write. My main concern of all of the words are the fact you chose Black as the color for the door. Since you could have chosen any color but chose to pick black, I am under the assumption that you have a grievance with the color Black. Is this some hidden agenda against Blacks in general or maybe a urge of yours that as of yet has been unfulfilled? Slightly concerned, Don.0 -
DWS, well put. But for most 99%+ it's much too painfull to admit ones shortcomings. It's just too easy to blame something/someone else. Many love to blame the president/politicians while doing nothing to make your own life better. 95% of what happens to people are because of their own doing. When I try to explain this to people they think I'm crazy,stupid,naive ect.
Just the way it is.0 -
quote:Originally posted by dcon12
quote:Originally posted by DancesWithSheep
There seems to be a good deal of confusion here. The statement "I hate life" (or, for that matter, the equally meaningless corollary "I love life") is not a statement about life at all, but rather how one stands in relation to its vicissitudes. Fact is, catpealer111's complaints would scarcely make a grain of salt in the ocean of horror and despair that have swallowed many for whom the thought "I hate life" is never even formulated, much less articulated. The point here is not just that catpealer111 wee-wees sitting down; it is that catpealer111 conveniently blames life rather than the real cause of his lament: Himself.
Consider: Suppose that for years on your way to and from work you walk past a house with a door that is painted black. For years you pay the door little notice, but one day you decide to stop and look at it. You say to yourself, "Yup, the door is black all right." You stare at it some more, and say again, "The door is black." You continue staring and thinking about the black door, and keep repeating "The door is black, the door is black, the door is black, OHMYGOD THE DOOR IS BLACK!!!" over and over until you are miserable about it. Now, is the cause of your misery really the black door which for years you paid little notice, or rather how you now "feel" about it?
To blame or congratulate life for one's perceived place in it is misdirected sentiment; the statements "I hate life" and "I love life" merely describe how one feels about one's own life, and this irrespective of the real or imagined fortunes and misfortunes which comprise it.
I understand all of which you write. My main concern of all of the words are the fact you chose Black as the color for the door. Since you could have chosen any color but chose to pick black, I am under the assumption that you have a grievance with the color Black. Is this some hidden agenda against Blacks in general or maybe a urge of yours that as of yet has been unfulfilled? Slightly concerned, Don.
Don if he chose the color purple would you have asked the same question?0 -
quote:Originally posted by dcon12
Is this some hidden agenda against Blacks in general or maybe a urge of yours that as of yet has been unfulfilled?
Don: Not at all. As a matter of fact, I have Jewish lawn jockeys.0 -
quote:Originally posted by DancesWithSheep
quote:Originally posted by dcon12
Is this some hidden agenda against Blacks in general or maybe a urge of yours that as of yet has been unfulfilled?
Don: Not at all. As a matter of fact, I have Jewish lawn jockeys.
And you know this how? Don0 -
Life is good. 0 -
THE GLASS IS HALF FULL FOR ME.I will not live long enough too do all the things I would like to do in this life.Hope I can come back.[:D][:D][:D][:D] 0 -
I love Life! There is so much to do and so very little time to do it. That's what I hate. 0 -
Cat: It's folks like you that make me write fiction.
"Sometimes, we git down `cuz when somethin' bad happens, we reckon someone has to be to blame, and we jist cain't settle on who. In that case, the easiest one to blame is our own self. Well, things happen all the time. Do ya reckon you kin stand in a storm and not git wet? Course ya don't. But do ya question why the first drop o' rain you feel decided to hit you? Nope. And that's cuz you `xpect to git hit, and it don't matter which one did it. Same with trouble-if yer alive, it's gonna find ya." Dufrey Comeaux--"Pine Marten" 2007.
Do what you need with what you have, and the Devil take the hindmost.
Clouder..0 -
I love life it just hates me. Damn straight 0
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