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At Christmas Dad asked me to look at the Muaser rifle I gave him about 8 years ago, said there was a bullet stuck. He has used it as a pest gun for years. Holy cow, stuck was an understatement! Crushed on the ejector side and swollen in the chamber, I had a time getting it out. He had forgotten how to load it properly. This scares me, and I'm not sure how to handle this, but it may be time for the guns to disappear. How in the world do I respectfully handle this situation? I have thought about this for quite awhile, thinking I might be over-reacting, but Mom complains of his driving skill also. This is tough to deal with!
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Make sure you have secured all the guns before you take the keys to his car!!
My Grandfather in law hit my father in law over the head with a .22 rifle when he took his keys away.
I now have three more guns in the safe and a pickup in the drive.
Gonna be a tough day, but if we live long enough we all will likely face it...0 -
I would say you have to tackle it straight on, but very gently and tactfully. "That stuck bullet got me thinking..." 0 -
Been there with the driving on my Dad. Only way is to be direct, firm and respectfull. At one point he said "I have not had an accident yet". Oh! like we will quit when we do?? I suggested he quit while ahead. Still a lot of stress. 0 -
Tough one, you should follow how you think is best.
Went through this with my Dad. My sister was in the Hosp delivering a baby, my Dad decided to drive to the Hospital, got in a wreck, they put him in the next room. We had been trying to get him off the road for a couple of years, that did it.
I'm sure, when the time comes, I'll be as hard headed. I would like to think my children will think enough of me to put up the fight to keep me around a while, even when I'm pissed.0 -
buy him a gun safe to keep them in and forget to give him the combination 0 -
Serious situation. And a difficult one too, but sounds like for safety reasons it has to be addressed. Hope it all works out OK for you and your Dad. 0 -
quote:Originally posted by zipperzap
My dad passed peacefully in his sleep at 55
I mean no disrespect AT ALL, but is that a typo on his age?0 -
He Dog's got it straight.
My dad passed peacefully in his sleep at 55 and my mother gave up driving voluntarily when her eyesight got bad.
I have had the distasteful obligation of helping a few of my friends with this one, though.
I've seen all of these interventions work.
Stage an intervention. This approach, commonly used with substance abusers, involves confronting the elderly driver as a group of concerned family, friends or even caregivers (if they have them). The group should include family members, health care workers and anyone else respected by the senior.
The intervention needs to be handled firmly but with compassion in order to break through the senior's denial of the issue.
Contact the local Department of Motor Vehicles and report your concerns. Depending upon state regulations and your senior's disabilities, it may be illegal for them to
continue to drive. The DMV may do nothing more than send a letter, but this might
help convince your parent to stop.
Take the keys, disable the car or move it to a location beyond the elderly person's control. Leave the headlights on all night or disconnect the battery to disable the car. But if your loved one is likely to call AAA or a mechanic, you have no choice but to eliminate all access to the car. While this may seem extreme, it can save the lives of seniors, other drivers and pedestrians.
... most importantly, don't be adversarial. Be consistent, logical, sound caring, firm but understanding ... and above ... all consistent/don't give up. Once comitted, stick to it and don't waver. Like everything else of importance ... it's not going to be (necessarily) easy.
Good luck.
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Just call me Nostradomas... 0 -
Thank you all for the advice and concern. I've heard many others go through this throughout the years, but as usual never thought it would ever be staring ME in the face. I "dread" everything about it. I can only hope it will be a peaceful endeavor. I have spoken to my brothers about the situation, and we are agreed on taking action. It's going to be a sad day. 0 -
quote:mateomasfeo:
Originally posted by zipperzap
My dad passed peacefully in his sleep at 55
I mean no disrespect AT ALL, but is that a typo on his age?
No - absolutely none taken - thanks for asking. Unfortunately, it is not a typo. It's a sad, but true, fact. It was (by far) the most 'earth shattering/momentous' disaster of my (and our family's) life(ves).
Dad was a project engineer for NASA from the beginning - a workaholic - never stopped / slowed from Mercury to Apolo - was more energetic and fun to be around than anyone else I've ever met .... and died peacefully in his sleep one night in his 55th year, in 1970. I was poleaxed - devastated ... right up to the death of my brother, Tommy at 49, in 2002.
... it seems that no men in our family (both sides) have lived longer than aged 59 since
1944! My great grandfather died that year at 79.
I'm 62 1/2 years, and each day I open my eyes, I am shattering another family (male) longevity record ... but one I that I sincerely regret!0 -
quote:Originally posted by zipperzap
quote:mateomasfeo:
Originally posted by zipperzap
My dad passed peacefully in his sleep at 55
I mean no disrespect AT ALL, but is that a typo on his age?
No - absolutely none taken - thanks for asking. Unfortunately, it is not a typo. It's a sad, but true, fact. It was (by far) the most 'earth shattering/momentous' disaster of my (and our family's) life(ves).
That is WAY too young. I can only imagine how awful that was.
Sorry, and I hope you live past 100.0 -
quote:Originally posted by mateomasfeo
quote:Originally posted by zipperzap
quote:mateomasfeo:
Originally posted by zipperzap
My dad passed peacefully in his sleep at 55
I mean no disrespect AT ALL, but is that a typo on his age?
No - absolutely none taken - thanks for asking. Unfortunately, it is not a typo. It's a sad, but true, fact. It was (by far) the most 'earth shattering/momentous' disaster of my (and our family's) life(ves).
That is WAY too young. I can only imagine how awful that was.
Sorry, and I hope you live past 100.
My dad is 84 and has an older brother and sister, still doing pretty well. mu Uncle Floyd is now in a nursing home, run by the VA, i believe.He ,at 88 was just too old to be left alone.
I'm sorry for your loss Zip, but rest in the knowledge, that all is well with them now.0 -
quote:Originally posted by mateomasfeo
Just call me Nostradomas...
How did you do that? Don0 -
quote:Originally posted by dcon12
quote:Originally posted by mateomasfeo
Just call me Nostradomas...
How did you do that? Don
I am a double naught spy...0 -
Uh, I told you, you were a twice CAUGHT spy. 0 -
I understand the situation here, but am a bit confused about some of the answers?
Unless someone is deemed "incompetent" through a legal proceeding, and someone has power of attorney for them,.......how can you just "take" someones guns or vehicles, that are registered to them?
Sure, if you get people together and speak to them, and they see what is being said is true and voluntarily turn over those items.
I would think if you just go taking someones property, regardless of their age, you might be paying a visit to your local police station, should he report his car stolen,.......or his guns.
Tough situation.[V]0
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