Funerals ... attending?
Funerals ... do you go when someone you know passes?
Personally, I don't care for funerals and seldom attend the affair.
In over 70 years, about 12-15 including 4 as pallbearer.
Personally, I don't care for funerals and seldom attend the affair.
In over 70 years, about 12-15 including 4 as pallbearer.
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More than I care to count 0 -
Funerals are for the living and unless I am close to the surviving family I rarely attend. I would rather remember the person as they were and not have that memory clouded by the sorrow of a funeral. Some seem to regard funerals as a social event and I can think of a lot more pleasant reasons to get together. It irks me when someone says how much they will miss the deceased but couldn't be bothered to call or visit them when they were living. Bob 0 -
I don't like going to them. I go to close family funerals but that is about it.
Personally I don't want a funeral or anything. I told my wife cremate me and spread the ashes in the woods. No Funeral, No Obituary, No service.
Or do nothing and let the state get rid of my body, who cares I'm Dead.0 -
I have attended 95 in the last 5 years.
That is me in front of the Jeep at "Present Arms".
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Sam06 wrote:
Personally I don't want a funeral or anything. I told my wife cremate me and spread the ashes in the woods. No Funeral, No Obituary, No service.
My sentiments exactly.
I just hope my dog, (Buddy) is not held to blame, when he has to partially eat me, in order to survive. It would be 3-5 days (easily) before anyone noticed I was missing.
I just pray, they do not open the door, and shoot my dog.0 -
i have attended two veteran funerals in the last two years...and they were HONORED by attendance of the PATRIOT GUARD riders.. on nasty weather days.....THANK YOU ...impressive........ 0 -
?It would be 3-5 days (easily) before anyone noticed I was missing. ?
We?d notice.0 -
jimdeere wrote:?It would be 3-5 days (easily) before anyone noticed I was missing. ?
We?d notice.
That would be sad. Who would we have to make fun of if Ken was gone?0 -
BobJudy wrote:Funerals are for the living and unless I am close to the surviving family I rarely attend. I would rather remember the person as they were and not have that memory clouded by the sorrow of a funeral. Some seem to regard funerals as a social event and I can think of a lot more pleasant reasons to get together. It irks me when someone says how much they will miss the deceased but couldn't be bothered to call or visit them when they were living. Bob
I used to think funerals were for the living, Bob.
The last few I went to were, sadly, for a few self-serving idiots who wanted to talk and for the bank accounts of the funeral home.
My request of my wife is a get together at the house for people that actually cared about me and her, to talk about how wonderful I was and to share stories of my unbounded positive contribution to humanity.
In other words, the wife will invite my son over and they may have a 10 - 15 minute conversation.0 -
Don McManus wrote:BobJudy wrote:Funerals are for the living and unless I am close to the surviving family I rarely attend. I would rather remember the person as they were and not have that memory clouded by the sorrow of a funeral. Some seem to regard funerals as a social event and I can think of a lot more pleasant reasons to get together. It irks me when someone says how much they will miss the deceased but couldn't be bothered to call or visit them when they were living. Bob
I used to think funerals were for the living, Bob.
The last few I went to were, sadly, for a few self-serving idiots who wanted to talk and for the bank accounts of the funeral home.
My request of my wife is a get together at the house for people that actually cared about me and her, to talk about how wonderful I was and to share stories of my unbounded positive contribution to humanity.
In other words, the wife will invite my son over and they may have a 10 - 15 minute conversation.
I find it amazing that survivors can think so much of inheritance and how to divide the spoils that entire family relationships are ruined. I had a cousin that I was not at all close to and lived in another state. When he passed I was notified of being mentioned in the will. The only reason I and other relatives were mentioned was to exclude us from his estate. He left everything to his three closest friends. Maybe this was necessary to keep some of the relatives from contesting the will. I didn't expect anything and was a little P.O.ed that he thought he had to include me, but I guess he had to include all relatives even remotely close. Bob0 -
US Military Guy wrote:I have attended 95 in the last 5 years.
That is me in front of the Jeep at "Present Arms".
Thank you. When we laid Dad to rest, the Honor Guard was a welcome sight (and sound).0 -
Nope...Don't plan on attending my own if I can help it! 0 -
badchris wrote:US Military Guy wrote:I have attended 95 in the last 5 years.
That is me in front of the Jeep at "Present Arms".
Thank you. When we laid Dad to rest, the Honor Guard was a welcome sight (and sound).
I have said it before and I will say it again.
"It is the most important thing I do - and an honor to do it."3 -
When I pass, I don't want any big fuss made.
Super simple short service, if any, at the funeral parlor.
Cremation will be the process and then put in the VA cemetery.
Already have the"pre-need" approval paperwork completed thru the VA.0 -
Yep, me too.Sam06 wrote:I don't like going to them. I go to close family funerals but that is about it.
Personally I don't want a funeral or anything. I told my wife cremate me and spread the ashes in the woods. No Funeral, No Obituary, No service.
Or do nothing and let the state get rid of my body, who cares I'm Dead.0 -
My wife and I- cremation. No funeral. Spread our ashes on her favorite flower bed- good for the bulbs. Get the kids together at the house- our grandkids are adults now. Have a drink and toast our memories, have a snack, remember the good times.
And if you don't go to other people's funerals, they won't come to yours.0 -
Been to too many the last few years. We formed a Masonic Funeral Service group, and are called upon several times a year to perform a service when either the deceased Mason or his family request it. A couple of times last year, we conferred our last rites two times in one day. We consider that last "Farewell" a duty we owe to our departed Brother. 0 -
as a young kid was at several + wakes body brought back to the house for the night and taken to the grave yard next day
over the years too many some friends and some family , older I get the more my emotions are hard to control on some of them ( loosing my testosterone ? ) most have all been about sharing the good times with the departed and keeping them in our hearts and minds with us
I ave been pallbearer several times also once was for a co-worker who's head was crushed with a back hoe
my wife is still the only one in her family who puts flower's on her parents grave or visits same with me and my parents . she wants us to be cremated spread on the area next to our favorite pets we have buried in the yard and save the cost of the show . she says and most likely true if we were burred no one would ever visit and with in a generation no one would know or care where we were . .0 -
Attended the funeral of an employee last Saturday and attending my Sister in Law's today. This makes 7 in the past 3 months. 0 -
I work a lot of hours a week, but have assisted with the VFW and Legion in Harlan, Iowa.
It is truly an honor.0 -
Have not attended one since the early 70s. Will not arrange one and have made it clear I don't want one. The last funeral I attended was more like an episode of a Jerry Springer show. 0 -
I can count on one hand the number of Funerals I?ve attended. The wife and I want cremation. She wants a service, I don?t. What I would like is friends and family to take a flight to Vegas. Go to Casa Fuente and share a box of Opus X cigars and enjoy some high end spirits. Remember the fun times we had. That can be done for less than a quarter of what a damn funeral costs these days. 0
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