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redneckandy
A little while back on another post I mentioned my Dad was in bad shape with cancer spread through his body. He is declining rapidly. Last Thursday I was able to sit and have a conversation with him, by Saturday he was very confused, and Sunday he could not speak more than a few words at a time. Not making much sense with what he said. Today he barely knew my name.

I have known for a while this day would be coming but that hasn't made it any easier.

Any kind thoughts would be appreciated.
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  • bpost
    You and yours are in my prayers.
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  • select-fire
    Not much to do but pray he crosses over easily.
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  • montanajoe
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    Prayers for you and yours. I'm sorry my friend.
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  • pulsarnc
    Prayers for you and your family . I went thru the same thing over 40 years ago . Cherish theses last few times together
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  • savage170
    Prayers sent
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  • ChrisStreett
    My thoughts are with you and your dad. During this trying time, remember the good days fondly and cherish them always.
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  • Chief Shaway
    I've been there. Prayers to you and your family.
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  • jar
    prayers to you and yours. I always think I should say something more but I know from my own experiences there is not anything to say but I am sorry, and be strong. you are not lone.
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  • roswellnative
    Prayers sent
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  • ltcdoty
    I've also been there..If possible sit and hold his hand and talk to him. That's what I did...
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  • Bubba Jr.
    Dad was in the Hospice section of the local hospital. When I got there he was thrashing about and moaning loudly. I pulled up a chair beside his bed, held his hand, told him I was there. I called to the nurse and asked her to administer more morphine because he was in so much pain. She said that she needed permission from the Dr. first. I told her to call him now. She called and the Dr. didn't return her call for over an hour. Dad was squeezing my hand as hard as he could as he thrashed around, and I was getting more aggravated by the minute. There was no reason that someone at the end of their life should suffer so needlessly. I don't blame Hospice, but I do have an issue with letting young inexperienced nurses being in charge of making decisions at the end of life.

    Hospice was involved with my Mother's end, and also my Stepfathers death. We had experienced nurses in charge of their care and the results were the exact opposite of Dad's death. They both went peacefully and without any drama.

    Dad died Dec 6, 2013, and it still chokes me up just thinking about that day.

    My only advice is to make sure that your Dad has a living will and that the terms are carried out. It will make the end much easier to endure. I know what you are going through, but it does get better, eventually.
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  • Old-Colts
    Prayers said!
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  • mrmike08075
    Beyond prayers and benedictions and offerings is they anything we can do for you and yours...

    I spend a lot of time with hospice patients and with children on the pediatric oncology ward and it never gets easier - for me it only gets harder...

    But that's a flaw in my character and a sign that I am not strong.

    May he go with god and escape the pain as comfortably physically and mentally and emotionally and spiritually as possible surrounded by nurses and family knowing they are there and they love him and that it's okay now to let go and pass over - to relinquish the pain and burdens...

    High lust and forward bearing - proud heart - rebellious brow... lord grant him the strength to die

    Mike
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  • pickenup
    Sent from here.
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  • 4205raymond
    Sat by my Mom's side for 10 days after they operated on her for Ovarian Cancer. She survived Colon Cancer for 17 years. The last three days of her life were awful with all that Morphine. Please know that You and Your Dad have my prayers.
    Ray
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  • Smitty500mag
    Prayers sent.
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  • shilowar
    You have my sympathy, I will be where you are someday with my folks being in their mid 80s. One can only prepare themselves so much. Peace to your family.
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  • KenK/84Bravo
    Prayers sent from here, Andy.

    -Ken-
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  • William81
    Prayers for you and your family.....
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  • SCOUT5
    Our very best to your father and all involved Andy.
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  • redneckandy
    I want to thank every one here for your kind thoughts and prayers. He passed Friday evening peacefully. He had had a rough last couple of years and now he is free of that pain.
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  • remingtonoaks
    Prayer sent from me for him and all of you that love him
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  • toad67
    Prayers sent. Have a good friend who seems not too far behind..
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  • ChrisStreett
    Andy, he is at rest now. Unfortunately, many of us here have traveled the same road so we know of which you wrote. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family.
    Chris
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  • lew07
    ltcdoty wrote:
    I've also been there..If possible sit and hold his hand and talk to him. That's what I did...

    Good and simple advice above. Hearing is said to be the last sense to go.My condolences
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  • Sparty_76
    All our prayers. Went through it with both parents, in-laws, and one sister! Never ever easy! Peace!
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  • wpageabc
    Lord have mercy on you and your family.
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  • drl50
    My thoughts and condolences.
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  • spasmcreek
    tough times and my dad went thru 5 years of cancer and died...not an easy deal...sometimes quick is not bad...best wishes to all there
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  • mmppres
    prayers for all god bless him
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