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My Mom who is old has a .38 smith. Well she did have. Sister calls me and says when Mom went in the hospital a few months back she removed it from the house and gave it to her daughter who is the Power of Attorney on Mom's estate when she dies. Mom went to get the gun and it wasn't there. She is furious.. Sister calls me up and tells the story. Wants me to come get the gun. Mom was going to call the Police and report it stolen. I have not had contact with her on this matter. I think I will be neutral and watch the show.. What say you?
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What if your Mom needs the gun tonight?
What if you were in her place and someone took your gun?0 -
Get it and give it to your mom, as long as she is capable and not incapacitated. imo 0 -
My Mother is in a nursing home. Once upon a time she was a very capable person and an excellent shot. She would have had the judgement to know if and when she would need to use her revolver. Back then I would have quickly made sure Mom got her revolver back. Today?? Her mental ability is such that even if she was living at home I would not give the revolver back to her. The mental capability is no longer there.
Mom is 92. Dad died about 4 months ago at almost 94. It was/is horrible. The reality is, they died about 5 or 6 years ago. These once proud accomplished people were no longer Mom and Dad. It is/was like visiting strangers in the nursing home. All I have learned from them growing old is that I have no interest in living as long as they did. HELL no. If I could know that I would have lost my mind while laying in bed in diapers was my future shooting myself would be a very viable option.
A long way of saying that each older person needs to be evaluated according to there situation.0 -
My opinion? Stay out of it. If you want to, buy her another gun.
Keep an eye on that daughter.0 -
quote:Originally posted by select-fire
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I think I will be neutral and watch the show.
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Sorry. That boat has already floated. You are not "neutral", since you now have information in the matter.
You may choose to not be actively involved, but you are in the know.
What is your plan, when your mom asks you about the revolver?
Are you going to lie by omission and tell her you don't know anything about it?
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Yes. You need to watch your sister. What else does she do using her Power of Attorney? Is she also the Executor of the Estate?0 -
If somebody stole something from my mother, heaven help them
I don't know how you can sit idly by and have your mother have somebody take advantage of her and have things stole from her..[V]
I thought you had more backbone than this.
Sorry, but you did ask everybody's opinion0 -
OPTION #1
If she wants it, go get it.
Don't want to confront/deal with the relatives,,,
OPTION #2
It's a bad idea to buy another gun, unless you went with her and she bought and paid for it in her name.
What kind of pistol should she have? 9mm auto or 38 revolver?0 -
Power of Attorney and Executor of an estate are two different things. POA has authority up to death, Executor has authority over the estate after death. If she is named as an Executor, she has no authority to deprive your mother of her property. She may be both, but that is an important fact to know. If your mother is capable of handling the gun, I'd get it back her. Otherwise they created this mess, let them figure their way out of it! 0 -
quote:Originally posted by Grasshopper
Get it and give it to your mom, as long as she is capable and not incapacitated. imo
I'm going with this also. Yeah,plus 10 -
Thinking on this for a while, is your mom in the right frame of mind to have a pistol around?
You not only need to ask yourself that, but find out for sure before you go get it and give it back to her...
That might be the reason why your niece refuses to give it back.
It just might be the best thing that she doesn't have the pistol. I'm not saying that's the case, because I'm not there to observe. But I think if I were you I would figure that out first, before you make any rash decisions0 -
I am going to call her tomorrow and see if she mentions the gun is missing. It's her gun and she needs it in case of an intruder. She most likely will remove my niece from POA. They in my eyes stole it from her. Mom is mad now when she finds out where it is she will go real mad. She is of sane mind and can still drive. 0 -
Was the intent to remove the gun so ?it? would be safe or ?mom? would be safe
Sounds like heartache all around0 -
quote:Originally posted by select-fire
I am going to call her tomorrow and see if she mentions the gun is missing. It's her gun and she needs it in case of an intruder. She most likely will remove my niece from POA. They in my eyes stole it from her. Mom is mad now when she finds out where it is she will go real mad. She is of sane mind and can still drive.
Glad to hear you're going to try to do something.
I'm also glad to hear that your mom's head is screwed on straight0 -
My MIL is 90 years old, sharp as a razor and keeps a .38 handy. 0 -
Sit down face to face with her and talk it out - not easy but needful
Take her out and see if she can still work and control the gun in question - assess her state of mind and physical ability
I understand the attachment and familiarity with the revolver but is that the best choice for her at this point - would a single shot break open shotgun be easier to operate and visually intimidating to bad actors
Shotshell pistol ammunition might be beneficial
Is there any possibility of suicide - not attacking you or your judgment but it should be on the table of discussion
These are points of consideration from my personal experience
You did ask
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As noted if Mom is of sound mind I would tell sister to return the gun.
If Mom isn't she probably doesn't need to live alone anyway.
My Mom is 85, she is of sound mind and fairly healthy but in no way could she handle a firearm including a .22.
My Step father bought her a Jennings or some such and it is a jam o matic. I asked her to never use that gun she would be better off offering the assailant some of her supply of alcoholic beverages.
Every case is different, soon enough the left will get their way and anyone will be able to tell the police someone else is dangerous and take their guns.0 -
In my opinion, it's your mom, so you can NOT be "neutral". And it's not a "show", where a firearm and your mom are concerned.
If your mom wants it back, get it for her. Your sister apparently also wants you to pick it up.
What's the issue here? Seems cut and dry to me.0 -
My Mom is 88 years old and still drives and has her CCW permit. If someone takes her gun she would use one of her other guns and go get it back. 0 -
If that firearm falls into the wrong hands and it's used for illegal purposes, your mom will be responsible and go to jail for it...
And if your sister's daughter would steal from your mom, her grandmother, what's to say she or somebody she knows wouldn't use it to rob a bank and kill someone?I mean her integrity is not that great if you ask me if she's going to steal from her grandmother.
I think you're really obligated to do more than just see if your mother mentions it. It's your duty to protect your mother from any harm that you possibly can, including going to jail because somebody else stole her firearm and used it illegally.
But please let us know what you decide to do, and what the outcome is...0 -
quote:Originally posted by select-fire
Mom was going to call the Police and report it stolen. What say you?
Since your sister was granted access to the home that would be viewed as Breach of Trust in most jurisdictions.
It sounds as though your mother is still of sound mind. I would recover the revolver and return it to her.0
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