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dav1965
My sister has graves disease and other problems she is legally blind almost. My Dad is dead and Mom has had several small strokes and 1 medium sized stroke.

I asked Mom a while back when she moved in with my sister why not split staying at each of our places. She told me that Tracy my sister needs her and i dont.

Well i visited Mom Monday and she has always been small. About 5 ft 2 and 115 pounds.

Now she is about 95 pounds and her fingers are like a skeleton with skin across it. Her forearm i can wrap my arm around it.

I know she eats breakfast but my sister and husband does not cook every night.

Im thinking about trying to get her to come here every other week she has to put on some weight.
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  • discusdad
    just because some one doesn't cook every night does not equate to not eating that night. there is a thing called carryout food, and restaurant/diner food you know.
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  • fordsix
    older folks start eating less as they get into there elderly years, my ma shrunk too[V]
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  • remingtonoaks
    Just talked to your sister and suggested she monitors your mother and make sure she eats three times a day. Problem solved
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  • hillbille
    you need a sit down with your sister now, if she is not willing/able to take care of your mom, you need to make other arrangements. tell your mother her husband can take care of her, your sister, but she needs more care than your sister can give right now. tell her it is just temporary for now to give your sister a break. I don't mean to sound cold, but taking care of an elderly parent is a handfull. you and your wife must both be willing/able to do it also. don't let good intentions overtake ability. best of luck Dave, I did this for my mom when she was 93, moved her in the last year of her life with the exception of last 4 months, when she needed around the clock care we were not able to give her.
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  • Oakie
    Dave, I'm guessing from your age, your mom is around her mid to late 70's. At that age, I think they don't eat as much. Plus with her debilitating health, she is probably not that hungry. I like the comment that Remingtonoaks made. That statement, has a lot a validity to it. My mother is about her age, but with no health problems. I noticed she doesn't eat as much either, and has lost weight in the last year or two. Oak
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  • Toolman286
    I moved my mother (92) & aunt (97), who are sisters, together & close to me so I can keep a eye on them. My aunt is legally blind & wasn't eating right, but mom is a good cook. A year later, my 5'-8" - 88 lb aunt is up to 98 lbs. She has never been over 118 lbs. & she eats more than any of us. We all envy & hate my aunts motabulism.
    Try leaving high calorie snack foods in your mom's room for her to nosh on. Or put in a small fridge with ensure drinks, etc. Also, make sure she keeps mobile. Just thoughts?
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  • dav1965
    My Mom turned 82 in February. [:(] Im 53 and my sister is 60.
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  • ChrisStreett
    Dav, my dad is 89, completely healthy, still works 6 days a week and lives nearby-but alone. I cook supper for him every day , buy his groceries, clothes etc. You'll find it's a challenge that you're accepting with your mom, but, as long as you're physically able, you'll have no regrets. As our parents age the roles tend to reverse a bit and we become their caregivers. Do that which you are able for your mom. We only get so many "tomorrows" with our folks. Try to make the most of them. Looking after your mom will, at times, require a lot of patience on your part but you're up to the job. I wish you well in this.
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  • JimmyJack
    Huh! Im about that age and I keep gaining weight. LOL
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