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  • 338magnut

    Thoughts and prayers and God be with you and your family.

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  • dreher

    I'm so sorry for both of you. Having cancer is bad but being the caretaker is also very hard. Prayers sent.

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  • BobJudy

    As I mentioned before, I am humbled by your devotion and strength. I have been through some of that when my father had cancer but nowhere close to your tribulations. I wish I could do more for the two of you but I will keep you in my prayers. Bob

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  • danielgage

    prayers

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  • montanajoe
    • Community moderator

    Prayers and his Blessings

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  • select-fire

    More Prayers

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  • Ruger4me

    Sad to hear, but also incredibly amazed at how tough you both are! Prayers continue Smitty500mag everyone here is pulling for you both.

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  • susie

    Prayers continue for you and Miss June. The role of caretaker is so very rough. I know the anguish, the fear and the joy of the good days. Take care of yourself.

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  • Nanuq907

    Smitty please talk to hospice. They are there for many, many more reasons than dying. They have amazing resources and are some of the kindest people you’d ever want to meet. They’ll walk this path with you, stay up late nights with you, cry with you and pray with you. If you need it, they’ll just quietly be there. Please. Give them a call.

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  • 4205raymond

    Smitty, will continue to pray for you and Miss June.----------------Ray

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  • Ditch-Runner

    both of you are in our thoughts and prayers

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  • toad67
    Nanuq907: 33170084737435/comments/33170073478427

    Smitty please talk to hospice. They are there for many, many more reasons than dying. They have amazing resources and are some of the kindest people you’d ever want to meet. They’ll walk this path with you, stay up late nights with you, cry with you and pray with you. If you need it, they’ll just quietly be there. Please. Give them a call.

    Agree 1000%, I just went thru my mothers loosing battle with cancer in August. Watching the daily pain and suffering is very, very tough and emotionally draining for the people who are not sick. The ones who are sick don't feel the amount of pain and anguish that we do.

    After realizing that it was a loosing battle that she couldn't win, and the daily pain wasn't worth it, my mom agreed to call in hospice. They came the next day and got her all set up. She had daily doctor visits, as well as caregivers who took care of her personal needs. The medication that I gave her was as needed, not just on a schedule, so that she was comfortable. Once the final hours came, it was just a matter of a few days until I was by her side when she passed.

    Hospice is a wonderful thing, very caring and experienced with this kind of thing. I think what gave my mom the most peace was that she was able to go on her own terms, at her own house, and not in a home or hospital.

    I know it's very hard to get to that point, but once you do, it's a great relief. You can only bang your head against the wall so many times before you realize that the headache won't go away.

    Prayers for you and your bride, it really is a tough row to hoe....

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  • ltcdoty

    Prayers sent...God Bless you both.....

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  • SCOUT5

    Prayers and best wishes for both of you Smitty.

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  • Brookwood

    Smitty, both June and you are in my daily prayers. I always ask God for miracles.

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  • Smitty500mag

    Terrible news again. It just keeps getting worse. At about 4:00 a.m. this morning I was trying to give her medicine to her and put the eye drops in for the eye infection and she wouldn't wake up. I called 911 and we're in the emergency room at this time and she's still not awake. They've done a CT scan to see if she has had a stroke and blood work to see if possibly her liver is not processing the pain medicine which may have gradually caused an overdose. She had 2 strokes last Oct. when they were doing the surgery on her neck to install the steel rods and cage that replaced the 2 vertebrae that had been eaten up by the cancer. Those two strokes didn't cause any permanent damage but she was never unconscious like she is now.

    The doctor just came in and said they were going to admit her to the hospital. He said they needed to do MRIs to determine if she had a stroke. He said the CT scan didn't show anything and that the MRIs are better for that sort of thing. The CT scans did show that she does not have pneumonia this time. She's had it twice before during this past year.

    We've been stuck in the house for over a year now battling this terrible disease and we're both about looney. All our family members are out of state and we're all alone.

    We by no means were angels during our 70 plus years on earth but I can't think of anything we've done bad enough to cause this kind of punishment. God or the devil is having a field day on us. This must be the way that Job felt. I dread to see what is going to come tomorrow.

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  • montanajoe
    • Community moderator

    Sorry to hear this news of another set back. Let the hospital do what they do and you try to take a breather and catch up on long overdue rest. Prayers continue. Keep faith.

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  • Mr. Perfect

    Prayers from here.

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  • Old-Colts

    Prayers continue!

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  • susie

    Paused for prayer.

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  • mohawk600

    Hello and prayers sent. Cancer is terrible. Took my dad when I was 12 and hit me 10 yrs ago. Chemo is horrible and it takes a lot of fortitude to voluntarily do that to oneself.

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  • 4205raymond

    Smitty, my wife is in a similar situation. You and Miss June are not alone. Your friends here on the GD Forum are all praying for you and Miss June.-----------------------------Ray

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  • pulsarnc

    Prayers for the both of you . I pray you both find the peace you so richly deserve . God's plan will work it all out in the end .I am awed and humbled by your devotion.

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  • Smitty500mag
    montanajoe: 33170084737435/comments/33170109376283

    Sorry to hear this news of another set back. Let the hospital do what they do and you try to take a breather and catch up on long overdue rest. Prayers continue. Keep faith.

    As usual thank you all for the prayers and well wishes. I'm proud to be a member of this forum of caring people. It really does help to hear from you guys and ladies.

    Joe, I can't leave her here by herself. I went home a little earlier tonight to pick up some things that June may need to have if she wakes up and it was the most heart-wrenching thing I've ever felt. Not seeing her there just about killed me. I wouldn't sleep a wink wondering if she was alone suffering or needing something.

    Last time and this time I got special permission to stay 24 hours a day from the charge nurse.

    When they wouldn't let me stay but a few hours back when the virus was really bad I tried staying home but would end up sleeping in my car in the hospital parking lot before the night was over. It just didn't feel right leaving her there alone and she knew if things weren't going right all she had to do was give me a call on her cell phone and I'd be there in a minute because I was just outside the building.

    It was a little different then because she was alert but now she's helpless laying here and the thoughts of going home without her being there is about more than I can bear.

    We've been here at the hospital 9 times this past year and a lot of the nurses know our name and know I'm not going to get in their way. I try to make their job easier by getting stuff she needs like drinks or to take her to the bathroom and they are good with that plus June doesn't have to wait to get a drink or go to the bathroom but right now I feel helpless because she's not awake and all I can do is watch and listen to make sure she doesn't quit breathing.

    We're a team we've been together for 54 years and we've never been a part for over one week during that whole time. When I was on the road working in later years we only had our youngest son at home with us by that time and she homeschooled him so we all traveled together like a band of gypsies rolling down the highway. Those were good times.

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  • montanajoe
    • Community moderator

    Are they allowing you to stay with her in her room? I sure hope so.

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  • Smitty500mag
    montanajoe: 33170084737435/comments/33170137074459

    Are they allowing you to stay with her in her room? I sure hope so.

    Yes Joe the last 2 visits here at the hospital I've stayed in her room around the clock. Only going home for a couple of hours for a quick shower and a change of cloths.

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  • savage170

    Prayers sent

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  • Ruger4me

    Sorry to hear this hang in there Smitty.

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