My Wife is in the hospital in the worst way...
June, my wife, recently had left shoulder replacement but that wasn't the source of her pain. I took her to the emergency room in Fayetteville, GA on Monday due to the pain in her neck and shoulders getting worse everyday. After doing MRI's, CAT scans and a biopsy they've determined she has upper spine cancer and lung cancer and now have moved her to a hospital in Atlanta. She's always been in good health and now we're hit with this news and it was the most shocking thing we've ever experienced.
To make matters worse I can't be with her because of the virus. I'm having to sit at home and talk to her and the doctors by phone. When she calls crying over the pain it's about more than I can handle. Knowing she lying there suffering and there's nothing I can do about it is the worse thing I've ever had to deal with. I was able to stay with her in the hospital room from 9:00 AM until 6:00 PM at the hospital in Fayetteville for 3 days but since they moved her to Atlanta yesterday I can't visit her at all.
She is supposed to have surgery on her neck this Sunday morning. The doctor said this surgery will take 8 or 9 hours. Her C 2 vertebrae is deteriorated and putting pressure on the spine and it appears there's a tumor in the C3 vertebrae that's destroying it also. The doctor is concerned about having good bones to attached the rods and screws to in order to support the neck to get the pressure off of her spine which is causing the pain. I asked him about not having the surgery and doing the radiation treatment first and then doing the surgery and he said the radiation treatment will damage the tissue to where they couldn't do the surgery. He said she'll have to wait about 4 weeks before the radiation and chemo treatments can be started after the surgery.
I've talked to 3 or 4 different doctors today. It looks like it's going to be a long ordeal to recovery but they said her being in such good health otherwise that she has a good chance of making a recovery.
June and I have been together since we were just kids, she's 69 and I'm 71. If she goes I don't think I'll be able to continue without her.
If anyone feels like saying a prayer for her it will be appreciated.
To make matters worse I can't be with her because of the virus. I'm having to sit at home and talk to her and the doctors by phone. When she calls crying over the pain it's about more than I can handle. Knowing she lying there suffering and there's nothing I can do about it is the worse thing I've ever had to deal with. I was able to stay with her in the hospital room from 9:00 AM until 6:00 PM at the hospital in Fayetteville for 3 days but since they moved her to Atlanta yesterday I can't visit her at all.
She is supposed to have surgery on her neck this Sunday morning. The doctor said this surgery will take 8 or 9 hours. Her C 2 vertebrae is deteriorated and putting pressure on the spine and it appears there's a tumor in the C3 vertebrae that's destroying it also. The doctor is concerned about having good bones to attached the rods and screws to in order to support the neck to get the pressure off of her spine which is causing the pain. I asked him about not having the surgery and doing the radiation treatment first and then doing the surgery and he said the radiation treatment will damage the tissue to where they couldn't do the surgery. He said she'll have to wait about 4 weeks before the radiation and chemo treatments can be started after the surgery.
I've talked to 3 or 4 different doctors today. It looks like it's going to be a long ordeal to recovery but they said her being in such good health otherwise that she has a good chance of making a recovery.
June and I have been together since we were just kids, she's 69 and I'm 71. If she goes I don't think I'll be able to continue without her.
If anyone feels like saying a prayer for her it will be appreciated.
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Smitty, prayers for you and June.--------------------------Ray 0 -
No, she's at Piedmont. Her surgeon has great reviews so we're just praying he can fix her.jimdeere said:Smitty, is she at Grady?
4 years ago a surgeon at Piedmont saved my life when he had to remove a foot of my large intestine due to a blood clot that caused gangrene to set in. Other doctors I've seen since then said it had to be a miracle that I lived because of the gangrene.
This sure is a helpless feeling. I feel like I at least need to be sitting out in the parking lot of the hospital if nothing else but I know that's stupid because it won't accomplish anything but I feel like I'm uncaring just sitting here doing nothing. What would you guys do?0 -
Smitty - that has to be very difficult on both of you not to be able to hold her hand and offer that comfort of closeness.
Prayers from Michigan. My best to June.
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You and June are in our prayers. 0 -
Prayers on the way. I do know for a fact they work. 0 -
Both of you will be in my prayers. I can't imagine what your going through, to have been together so long and then told you can't be with her, that's just not right. 0 -
Prayers are sent. 0 -
Prayers sent. She knows you would be right there with her if it was possible. May God guide the surgeon's hands and give June a healing blessing. 0 -
Smitty, I just saw this and I am VERY sorry to read it,......... you two have already been to hell and back not that long ago.I will keep both of you fine folks in my prayers daily.
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We will be adding the two of you to our church’s prayer list tomorrow morning. . Wish I could do more .
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Prayers for your wife and all family from our house. 0 -
prayers. 0 -
Sent from here. 0 -
My prayers going out for you both. For healing and strength to you in this hard separation. 0 -
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Greg so sorry to wake up and read this news about June.
Of course good thoughts and my Prayers for you both Sir.
-Ken-
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Prayers from here, Smitty. 0 -
Prayers definitely coming from NE Arkansas. God can definitely provide the knowledge and ability to the surgeons and can give the grace for a favorable outcome.0 -
Prayers and positive vibes sent your way.Stay strong and God bless your family.
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Smitty so sorry to hear this, I pray for strength for you and your wife and that she receive the healing grace of our lord.
Not much you can do, I understand how difficult it must be for you not to be allowed access. Worry is not healthy either.
Perhaps if the Doctor adds that it is medically necessary for you to be there to assist her they would allow you in?
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Praying for both of you
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Prayers sent
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Prayers for you both... 0 -
Smitty, what Barzillia says makes sense. One family member was allowed when my wife had her two brain surgeries this year, and that's in the Seattle area! I cannot imagine such a heartless treatment policy under the circumstances that you and June are suffering. 0 -
Hopes for the best in every way from here.
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kimi said:Smitty, what Barzillia says makes sense. One family member was allowed when my wife had her two brain surgeries this year, and that's in the Seattle area! I cannot imagine such a heartless treatment policy under the circumstances that you and June are suffering.
Thanks Brarzillia, kimi, mogley and everyone else for suggestions.
I called and talked to a rep at the hospital and she said they may be able to permit me to visit for one hour tomorrow afternoon. She said they are being very strict about it and that she would have to get it approved from higher up and would call me back a little later today. I guess since the President is sick it's put everything back on high alert?
The surgery has been rescheduled again back to Monday morning at 7:30 AM instead of tomorrow morning. I talked to the surgeon late yesterday and he said he wants to schedule the surgery early no matter what day it takes place on instead of late in the evening so they wouldn't be working into the morning hours. He said he wanted the team to be fresh because it's going to take 8 or 9 hours to do the surgery. I guess getting the operating room and all the parts and pieces scheduled is a pretty big undertaking.
Thanks again for all the prayers and suggestions.0 -
I got the call back from the hospital just a few minutes ago. They are going to let me see her for one hour tomorrow afternoon. That's not great but I'll take what I can get. I would hate for my last memory of her to be when she was being put in the ambulance to take her to Atlanta. I at least get to hold her hand the evening before the surgery. 12 -
Glad to hear it, Smitty. I think they will fold with the right amount pressure, but maybe not. May the Good Lord's blessings be with you both during this most difficult time. 0 -
Smitty, wishing for the best possible outcome, prayers from here. 0 -
I'm glad that worked out for you. Give her a very gentle group hug from all of us.Joe
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